Mothering Forum banner

1 - 8 of 8 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,364 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
The home water birth of Lauren Jane<br><br>
After three nights of false alarms, I awoke Monday morning feeling very frustrated and wondering when I was going to have my baby. Sunday afternoon and evening had seemed promising enough that I had taken my two year old son Jacob over to my mom’s house for the night and had alerted my midwife that things might be starting. I called my midwife that morning to let her know that nothing was happening. I was supposed to have an appointment at her office that day at 11am, but she decided to come to my house instead. My mom then brought Jacob by for a visit. I had been worrying about him, since he’d never spent a night away from me before. I was very relieved to see that although he was clearly very happy to see me, he was not clingy or upset. I spent a couple hours playing with him and then my mom took him with her when my midwife showed up. Rosanna checked to see that the baby was doing fine with all the contractions I’d been having. The baby was doing great. Then she asked if I wanted a vaginal exam, which I did. I was very curious whether all these contractions were doing anything, whether I was in labor or not, etc. And I was 7cm dilated! I couldn’t believe it. The baby was still quite high; the pelvic pressure I was feeling was actually from the bag of water bulging during contractions. Rosanna suggested a few things to help move the baby down and told us to call her with an update in the afternoon, or the minute things started happening.<br><br>
My husband and I decided to go get some lunch and then go walking in some nearby shady hills. Between the hills and the heat I only lasted for about 30 minutes of walking and then we headed home. My contractions had been 20 minutes apart in the morning, went to 15 minutes apart during lunch, and 10 minutes apart while walking. Though they were still fairly mild, I slowed down during them but didn’t stop. We got home around 3pm and I called my midwife to update her. I had been losing globs of mucus plug for a couple days, but lost a really big chunk at this point. I took a shower to cool off and then decided to sit on my birth ball to try and get the baby to move down. This did make the contractions stronger and they moved to 5 minutes apart. At 4:30 I called my midwife again to update her. Because commute traffic is so bad where we live, she decided to head down to my house. My husband and I started watching Joe vs. the Volcano, though it was interrupted a lot by my having to pee every 15 minutes. Rosanna and her assistant arrived around 6pm and set up all their stuff in the other bedroom. While they were doing this, my contractions slowed and became much more mild. When they were done setting up, Rosanna asked me if I wanted them to stick around or they could leave and go get some dinner. I said go. As soon as they left my contractions picked back up. My husband and I ate dinner and continued watching our movie. After a bit I decided to move from my birth ball and try squatting on a stool. Ouch that hurt. It sent pain shooting up my spine. All this time I was still getting up to pee frequently and the contractions I had on the toilet were definitely the strongest. Around 8pm I decide to get in the tub (a Rubbermaid horse trough and it was wonderful! I liked it way better than the Aqua Doula I used during my labor with Jacob) and try squatting there. The warm water felt wonderful on my back, which was hurting during contractions. My contractions seemed to slow down, but I just stayed in my squatting position hoping the baby would decide to move down. At this point my husband thought we should call the midwife, have her stop back by the house to check me if she wanted, and then head home till things started happening. I agreed with calling her, but didn’t think she should go home because that would be too far away. At 8:30pm he called and they were done with dinner and would be by in a few minutes. During the very next contraction, I felt my water break with a pop and the contraction intensify. Suddenly the contractions are 90 seconds long and coming every 2 minutes. When the midwives arrive I’m throwing a washrag at my husband and saying ‘I want a COLD washrag!’ She told me afterwards that when they heard that, they looked at each other and said the baby would be here soon. One of the midwives then listened to the baby’s heartbeat, it’s good. From the location I know the baby has moved down. For awhile I continue to talk and joke in-between contractions, but as they continue to intensify I move into labor land and anything said to me takes a long time to sink in. Amniotic fluid comes out periodically in small gushes. I move to my knees and grip the side of the tub. I rub an icepack on my face in-between contractions, throwing it down when the next one starts coming. I’ve been making low groans, but I start having trouble keeping my focus. Repeatedly I find myself making high pitched noises and have to fight hard to bring it down. My husband is wonderful and encouraging during all of this. I said several times that I didn’t want to do this anymore, this hurts. He kept reassuring me that I was doing wonderfully. I could occasionally hear my midwives in the background echoing this same thing. During contractions my tailbone hurt horribly. One of the midwives used her hands to put pressure on either side of it, which felt wonderful. I begin to push into the pain, which helps.<br><br>
Around 9:45pm I feel the urge to push. I never felt this with my first birth. And I think ‘urge to push’ is such tepid language for such an overwhelming feeling. My body WAS pushing, whether I liked it or not. I told my midwife afterwards that it was like being strapped to the front of a speeding train. I wasn’t being run over, I was rushing along at a furious pace that I had no control over. It was interesting to notice that the contractions, which I had been feeling in my lower belly, I was now feeling mostly at the top of my uterus. I was still on my knees at this point. Rosanna suggested I move to a slightly different position in the tub so that I could spread my knees more. I felt incredible burning sensations as the baby moved through the birth canal and began stretching my perineum. My midwife used her fingers to provide counter pressure on my perineum. I did the same in the front. It was amazing to feel that first squishy bit of scalp; it took me a minute to realize what it was that I was feeling. With each contraction I could feel more and more of her head emerge. And then her head was out. Whew, what relief. With the next contraction I start to push out her shoulders, but it was a short contraction and they didn’t come out. Then Rosanna said I needed to get out of the tub (she wanted me to shift positions, thinking the baby might be stuck). I thought if I just stall till the next contraction I know I can push this baby out. Soon I felt the contraction starting and gave a big push. The baby flew out, right past Rosanna’s hands, and was floating in the tub beneath me. I scooped her up and took a look at my baby. She was beautiful! And covered with tons of vernix, her eyelids were glued shut with it. Her cord was very short, so I couldn’t even get her on to my belly. I remember trying to look and see if she really was a girl, but the cord was in the way. After a minute of gazing at her, I moved to get out of the tub. Rosanna held the baby at crotch level while I climbed out. I lay down on the bed and watched as clamps were put on her cord (which was mostly white by this point) and Bob cut it. Then I was finally able to hold her. She was so tiny! Rosanna asked me to try pushing with the next contraction, I did and the placenta came right out. Bob snapped a couple pictures of me holding her. I have an amazed, triumphant smile on my face.<br><br>
Lauren Jane was born at 9:59pm after 1.5 hours of labor. She was 8 lb. 13 oz. 20.5 in.<br><br>
Because of my first homebirth experience (which a back up midwife I had never met before attended), during my pregnancy I had fantasized about having a UC. But I loved having Rosanna and Pearl there. The extra hands putting counter pressure on my back, and everything they did (fetching, cleaning up, brewing herbs for perineum care and freezing witch hazel pads) so that Bob and I could just focus on our baby. It was a great birth, I got everything I had hoped for. The midwife I knew and liked, I wasn’t anemic, I didn’t go into active labor already exhausted, I didn’t hemorrhage (in fact I had very little bleeding), a water birth, born into my hands (sort of), a faster labor and a faster pushing stage. I had no tears, which is even more wonderful when you consider that my babies have no head molding! This runs in my family, my mom’s babies were the same. An hour after the birth, Lauren was nursing like a pro.<br><br>
If asked to describe my first birth in one word, it would be hard work (ok two words). If asked to describe this birth in one word, it would be intense. My husband said transition and pushing this time seemed to him the same as the first time, except much shorter and thus ‘easier’. It wasn’t. Not by a long shot.<br><br>
here's a pic of her less than 24 hours old...<br><br><a href="http://i152.photobucket.com/albums/s185/vaquitita/DSCN1597.jpg" target="_blank">http://i152.photobucket.com/albums/s...a/DSCN1597.jpg</a>
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
931 Posts
What a beautiful story & little girl! Thanks so much for sharing this. I'm due in February and reading stories like this is wonderful for me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Many congratulations on your new little one. I hope big brother is adjusting well!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,218 Posts
What a wonderful birth! Congratulations <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,907 Posts
Congrats on Lauren! My dd's middle name is Jane, I think it's a great middle name.<br><br>
I'm planning my first hb, after 2 hossy births, for October and this story was excellent in helping me prepare.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,376 Posts
Congratulations on the birth of your baby girl. Thanks for sharing your beautiful birth story <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Edited to add: Your daughter is absolutely adorable, by the way!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
303 Posts
She's so alert! Intense is how I'd describe my last birth too - although it took twice as long as yours did. Congratulations!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
759 Posts
Oh, heavens, what a beautiful babe! She looks so perfect for being fresh out of the struggles of birth. A very empowering story. Thanks for sharing.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,458 Posts
She is so beautiful!!! Wonderful story!
 
1 - 8 of 8 Posts
Top