This woman really beats all that I have ever seen...Today the health department called to ask how I am doing with my loaner pump. My mother tells me that "Most women are weaning their babies at Kaeleb's age". He is only 8 months old for the love of Pete. I tell her that not most of the women that I know and her response...."I am talking about more than your little circle of 10 friends". She is talking about you guys cause I only know two other people irl that nurse or nursed. I told her that my online buddies numbered a great deal more than 10 and that millions of women worldwide nurse their 3 year olds! She again asked me (I have heard this soooo many times) "Well, your not nursing full time, so you are going to stop at a year, right". I don't know if I am or not....gonna ask that in another thread...but what does she care? It's not as if I am nursing HER. I know what her problem is....Dh and I won't let her keep Kaeleb (I am not one of those mother's that needs a break from her children...not trying to offend there cause I know that sometimes a break is certainly called for...I just have never needed one) and she thinks that if I wean at a year then she can keep him...NOT...this is a woman who thinks I am crazy cause I don't smoke (and won't allow others to) around my child. Who knows what she would do when I am not around.
My irritating mother....
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I just wanted to give you a big pat on the back for standing up to her. I know it can be hard to stand up to your mother and other people that you love, so I know what resolve that takes. Good for you!!!
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I'm sorry your mom isn't more understanding. I can sympathize. My mom told me shortly before dd's 1st b-day that dd would be happier if I weaned her.
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What she meant was that if I weaned dd, maybe dd wouldn't be as attached to her mama and would go to her gramma. When dd was about 6 months, she also asked if I'd be weaning dd at 8 months bc SIL (my bro's wife who can do no wrong when it comes to parenting bc of their mainstream parenting style) weaned their ds then.
Anyway, didn't mean to hijack your thread, but wanted to tell you I completely understand how this lack of respect for your decisions from your mother hurts.
What she meant was that if I weaned dd, maybe dd wouldn't be as attached to her mama and would go to her gramma. When dd was about 6 months, she also asked if I'd be weaning dd at 8 months bc SIL (my bro's wife who can do no wrong when it comes to parenting bc of their mainstream parenting style) weaned their ds then.
Anyway, didn't mean to hijack your thread, but wanted to tell you I completely understand how this lack of respect for your decisions from your mother hurts.
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Year-old babies, even those who have weaned, are often super-attached to their moms because that's an age when many children get separation- and stranger-anxiety. that happens to many well-adjusted children, even if their moms had to formula-feed.
Here's a policy my dh has encouraged me to adopt with regard to my mom. (My mom, who does support me nursing, and who isn't as insulting as your mom, is ever so persistent about bugging me about every little thing anyway. Unfortunately one doesn't need to have a big disagreement in parenting philosophies to have to cope with this!) My dh says, "You aren't discussing it with her." Of course my mom lives in another state, so we can just as easily talk about the weather.
Don't wean if you don't want to, don't talk to your mom about it, if she asks you why she can't have the baby for a visit without you, tell her you don't want him in a smoker's house. Even if you weaned, that's how you would feel, right? You are right, you aren't nursing her! :LOL
Here's a policy my dh has encouraged me to adopt with regard to my mom. (My mom, who does support me nursing, and who isn't as insulting as your mom, is ever so persistent about bugging me about every little thing anyway. Unfortunately one doesn't need to have a big disagreement in parenting philosophies to have to cope with this!) My dh says, "You aren't discussing it with her." Of course my mom lives in another state, so we can just as easily talk about the weather.
Don't wean if you don't want to, don't talk to your mom about it, if she asks you why she can't have the baby for a visit without you, tell her you don't want him in a smoker's house. Even if you weaned, that's how you would feel, right? You are right, you aren't nursing her! :LOL
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hm, you can always print her off some info... and tell her michel jordan was bf for 3 yrs...
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Tell her most women in the world breastfeed until the child reaches (on average) 4.2 years of age. She needs to consider outside her little circle of unnatural Americans.
Don't know how far you'll get, though, trying to argue with someone who thinks it's crazy not to smoke around a baby.
Don't know how far you'll get, though, trying to argue with someone who thinks it's crazy not to smoke around a baby.
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: I do NOT GET grandparents like this. What is their OBSESSION with keeping their grandchild overnight? And why do they feel they must be able to do it IMMEDIATELY?!?
I swear, if my mother behaved like that, it would make me much LESS likely to want my child to stay with her. Do they have to feel like the child is theirs for a period of time? Creepy!
| Originally posted by Justice2 I know what her problem is....Dh and I won't let her keep Kaeleb and she thinks that if I wean at a year then she can keep him. |
I swear, if my mother behaved like that, it would make me much LESS likely to want my child to stay with her. Do they have to feel like the child is theirs for a period of time? Creepy!
Gee, your mom doesn't let up, does she! I remember your other posts with all the mean, sabotaging comments she's used on you.
I'm sorry you have to listen to all her crap. You really don't need to hearing such negativity all the time. Is she gonna talk like this for the next 3 years?
You might mention how impressed we all are with your mothering efforts. And how you're quoted as the relactating mother success story around here. You overcame a lot to get to where you're at now. You are an inspiration and I'm sure your story has helped and inspired lots of other moms around here. Remember that, and don't let her get to you.
I'm sorry you have to listen to all her crap. You really don't need to hearing such negativity all the time. Is she gonna talk like this for the next 3 years?
You might mention how impressed we all are with your mothering efforts. And how you're quoted as the relactating mother success story around here. You overcame a lot to get to where you're at now. You are an inspiration and I'm sure your story has helped and inspired lots of other moms around here. Remember that, and don't let her get to you.
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Natalie...She does not keep my baby for any period of time...at all. I simply cannot trust her around my son. I am not sure if I ever can. I don't think it's an issue really, dh is enlisting in the marines and we should not be here too much longer after Kaeleb's first birthday.
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Thank you so much, Wombat. It's really you guys that are the inspiration...my inspiration to do the very best for my son despite all the negativity from HER. So, I own you guys all of my thanks. You cannot possible understand what you have meant to my success!
| Originally posted by wombat You might mention how impressed we all are with your mothering efforts. And how you're quoted as the relactating mother success story around here. You overcame a lot to get to where you're at now. You are an inspiration and I'm sure your story has helped and inspired lots of other moms around here. Remember that, and don't let her get to you. |
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As far as over-nighters go -
I had all kinds of relatives begging to keep my baby overnight. Once they were weaned and were big enough to get around, the begging stopped. Once there was more than one child, they reluctantly said yes on occassion. Now that there are three, everyone we used to know has disappeared. (WHERE IS EVERYBODY BOdy body(echo, get it?)???)
I say have a whole herd of kids and have a "if you take one, you take them all!" policy. That should do the trick.
Make jokes. At dinner say, "Well, I'm trying to wean the baby because everyone says it's time. I still have all this milk, though and I'm trying to figure out what to do with it."
Pause for dramatic effect.
"It's pretty good in the mashed potatoes, don't ya think?"
I had all kinds of relatives begging to keep my baby overnight. Once they were weaned and were big enough to get around, the begging stopped. Once there was more than one child, they reluctantly said yes on occassion. Now that there are three, everyone we used to know has disappeared. (WHERE IS EVERYBODY BOdy body(echo, get it?)???)
I say have a whole herd of kids and have a "if you take one, you take them all!" policy. That should do the trick.
Make jokes. At dinner say, "Well, I'm trying to wean the baby because everyone says it's time. I still have all this milk, though and I'm trying to figure out what to do with it."
Pause for dramatic effect.
"It's pretty good in the mashed potatoes, don't ya think?"
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hahahahahahaha....:LOL :LOL :LOL
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...that is too good!!!!!
| Originally posted by chellemarie I say have a whole herd of kids and have a "if you take one, you take them all!" policy. That should do the trick. Make jokes. At dinner say, "Well, I'm trying to wean the baby because everyone says it's time. I still have all this milk, though and I'm trying to figure out what to do with it." Pause for dramatic effect. "It's pretty good in the mashed potatoes, don't ya think?" |
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