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A few weeks ago there was a letter in my local paper about how spanking children is appropriate and necessary in order to bring order and civility back to our youth and society.: I promptly sent off a hurried, not very eloquent letter:
|I am very sorry that Mr. (name edited out) believes it's appropriate to assault children. People call it spanking, popping, smacking, and a number of other things that are probably meant to make it sound less dangerous than it really is, but it's really an assault. It is violence against our young; some of the most vulnerable people in this world. What's worse is that it is violence inflicted on children by the very people that are supposed to protect and cherish them.|
I do not look at spanking as simply a choice a parent can make, but rather I see it as a violation of the human rights of a child. Is it acceptable to hit your spouse or partner because they have angered you? Is it appropriate to strike your co-worker because you find his behavior irritating or frustrating? Of course it isn't, and if you were to do it the law would likely get involved.
Children need to be able to trust their parents. I do not trust people that hurt and frighten me. Spanking is meant to hurt and frighten. Parents who hit their kids are sometimes fond of saying "We don't hit hard enough to hurt them. It's just enough to get their attention." This attention is from fear, and hitting people hurts. Perhaps there are varying degrees of pain depending on the individual hit, but spankings depend on the pain and the fear of future pain or they wouldn't be a (so called) effective tool for disciplining children.
The bottom line for me is that it's not acceptable to assault people just because they do something we don't like. It's not acceptable to assault children to "teach" them something. The only thing you are teaching a child when you hit them is that you can and are willing to hurt them. And what a very sad lesson that is to teach.