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I understand it's cultural (latina)<br><br>
I understand it's a result of ignorance.<br><br>
I understand that when she had us, it wasn't even an option presented.<br><br>
BUT, I'm tired of her shit.<br><br>
I was at a bbq on sunday (went back to nyc to visit the fam), and I went to nurse Dev outdoors. My cousins have seen me do this many times, and I've converted the younger women to our cult. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
My mother, however, had a full on fit. she bitched and bitched about how I was offending my uncle and making all of the men uncomfortable. How I needed to go indoors to do "that". Couldn't socialize, chat, no, not me. She wanted to send me away like a naughty child.<br><br>
In the end, I did go inside. And stayed in for hours to prove a point. While my young cousins (early 20's engaged) came in to play with babe and ask questions, the older crownd kept asking for Dev. I'd just stick my head out the widow and scream that I was trying not to offend.<br><br>
Next day, my very dear friend charlie came over. This man hooked my dh and I up, rubbed my back while pg, saw me through my 1st marriage and divorc. So, nursing is nothing to him (thinks momma leche is cool).<br><br>
Mom flip nuber two, since I don't even bother with descracion around him.<br><br>
Sigh. I love her, but want to smack her. Ruins every single fucking trip.
 

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I'm sorry that you and your mama had words. When I go to my mom's house I do not nurse in her living room if there are men other than my dh present. This is out of respect for her home and customs.<br><br>
However, if we go out in public she knows what to expect. At first she tried to get me to go to the bathroom or to the car and then she gave up. My mother knows the way I feel about NIP and Extended bf'ng and I've brought her around quite a bit by being gentle in our disscussions.<br><br>
Now, she thinks it's neat and that I have a lot of guts to continue nursing a toddler and to nurse wherever I am.<br><br>
I hope you and your mama can learn to understand each other.
 

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So sorry hugs!<br><br>
My mom doesn't completely support my NIPping either I feel for you.
 

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Some customs are not worthy of respect. If someone had a custom in their home of wanting everyone to put a blanket over their head while they eat, I would not respect that. It is unreasonable to expect mothers to hide their breastfeeding.<br><br>
I wouldn't have gone inside. I would have said, "You are the one making a spectacle of yourself."
 

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wtf?! i just don't get how moms can be so unsupportive of how their daughters raise thier babies!! i mean, it's not like you're doing anything bad - in fact, you're doing the best thing possible!<br><br>
i had no idea that latinas aren't pro-breastfeeding. my husband is half colombian (he's first generation american - his dad is french) and his mother and all her sisters breastfed their babies. my MIL is a little weirded out by my insistance to allow dd to self-wean but other than that she's totally pro nursing.<br><br>
know that she's only unsupportive because of her discomfort with the female body. it's so sad that so many women don't treasure their breasts for what they are there for - milk! i mean, i can sorta understand how women who've never birthed a baby might not get it but other mamas?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
anyhow, bravo to you for giving your baby what's best despite lack of family support. hopefully your cousins will follow your lead and nurse their future kids.
 

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I'm sorry your momma doesn't get it.. I'm sorry it hurts you.. I'm sorry that soo many people my age and older never got a bit of boobie as a baby.. I was a lucky babe in the 70's to get the boob for just over a full year..<br><br>
Hopefully your momma will come around or leave you alone.. The best persuasion is leading by example...<br><br>
You rock momma..<br><br>
Warm Squishy Feelings..<br><br>
Dyan<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sure there are plenty of latinas who bf. And plenty more latinas who support them. It is true, however, that minorities are statistically less likely to bf.
 

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Don't want to make assumptions here, but Latinos *do* tend to be Catholic. If so, you might want to mention to you mom that the Pope believes all women should nurse and that it is the only CHURCH endorsed form of birth control.
 

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Thanks everyone.<br><br>
My mom is a very very lax catholic who could care less about the pope.<br><br>
In my very large extended family, NIP is taoboo because (gasp) men may see. Oh the horrors.<br><br>
BF isn't the problem. NIP is. I only recently discovered that one of my aunts tandem nursed. i never knew she nursed period. She never nursed in front of us as kids so as not to expose us to possibly offensive sights i.e. breasts.<br><br>
I don't get it.<br><br>
I understand that it's ignorence, since she was never offered the chance to nurse. Still pisses me off.
 
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