[lunasmommy]

Here's the deal. Lately my morning routine is to get up and make coffee and breakfast (not for me, for someone else) It has to be done. Of course thats after I nurse ALL night and once before I can get out of bed. By the time the breakfast is done, Dh is usually up, but still in the bedroom and usually on the computer while DD plays AROUND him. So when she sees me she wants me and if I leave the room without her she cries. So I get to use the bathroom with her in there with me while DH is on the computer. Recently DD discovered the toilet and I've been working really hard to get her to NOT play in it. DH on the other hand lets her open the lid and splash around, which makes my job much harder.

Now usually after that one of two things happens, we either go to the chiropractor or I can get DH to take Dd so I can at least eat something. Of course I have to MAKE him do something with her like take her outside. We get up late, about 10 30 or 11, so by this time its about 12. DH works at either 1 or 2 and startes getting ready and hour before he leaves (an hour and a 1/2 before he starts, so either 11 30 or 12 30) Which means that while he takes a shower and gets ready I get to watch DD. So no time for me.

Today was particularly bad because he had some test that needed to be done for work, and he told me that it could either be done before he got their or he could do it their. He decided to do it at home which meant that he couldnt take DD AT ALL.

I feel like I'm either taking care of the baby, the house or someone else and NEVER have time for myself. Ever. Then Dh comes home at night and once the baby is asleep he wants more of my attention. I just feel like I'm going mad. Like I'm only taking care of everyone else and not me . I get a shower maybe once every other day and on his days off is the only time we get to do anything fun. He takes the only car to work, so I'm stuck home all day. Even though I could easily take him and drop him off. iTs not fair to DD because we're home all the time, and right now we're living with a close friend who workd out of the house, so DD cantreally play out of our room much. Its too hot to go outside until much later and I really feel like I'm at my wits end. DH wont listen, tells me I'm wrong when I try to talk to him about it.

Ok. Sorry that was so long. Thanks for reading, any suggestions would be great.

 

[nannymom]

I am so sorry mama. I have very similar morning issues. I do everything while my dh lies in bed unless I tell him to get the - up. No advice just hugs.

 

[delicious]

have you discussed with your dp? i would tell him you need some time alone-either after work or in the mornings. your dd is old enough that you should be able to at the very least go to the bathroom in the mornings with his help, you know? my kids at that age were very cling/attached, but i was still able to get a few minutes here and there. he needs to help you more. our morning routine now is that i lay in bed for a half hour while he gets the kids breakfast and changes ds's diaper and take the dogs out. it's heaven, i tell you.

 

[littlehalo]

Is there any way you can get some of the stuff out of the way the night before? Like setting stuff out for breakfast, getting the coffee pot setup, laying out clothes for the next day or maybe taking a shower at night after DD is in bed? I have started doing some of these things and it makes my mornings go so much easier now.