[PapayaMom]

My sweet little nephew born on Firday night was circ'd. My brother was the one on the fence. I had a conversation with him about it the day before it happened and he admitted it seemed like a weird thing to do since there were no medical benefits. He said the only thing that was a pro was the soceital pressure, he felt taht his ds would have a hard time if he wasn't. I told him that more and more people were not and certainly if they chose not to he would not be the only little boy who wasn't.

it still didn't matter. I feel so bad for this little guy so much intervention already in his short life. Induction-csection-circ its a wonder he is bf'ing as well as he is.

Breaks my heart.

 

[PuppyFluffer]

I am so sorry!

 

[coloradoalice]

I'm sorry too. My sister had a baby Friday night as well and I am pretty sure they did it to him.

It's just so wrong!

 

[AntoninBeGonin]

:

 

[Quirky]

I'm sorry. It is just heart-breaking.

 

[Lact-o-Mama]

I'm sorry to hear that Mamma. My sister is due anytime now and she has made it clear that she'll circ' if she has a boy, purely for her own selfish cosmetic reasons. Blech!
I'm praying she has a girl.....at least 1 foreskin can then be spared...

 

[Robin926]

It's so hard, I know.

 

[Lula's Mom]

I am so sorry. I have known the same heartache and disappointment.

A suggestion for next time, in case you didn't take this approach this time: speak about the benefits of the foreskin. The 15 square inches (the size of an index card!) of richly innervated skin (240 feet of nerves! 20,000 nerve endings!) that will belong to an intact man. Point out how the foreskin is there to protect the glans from bacteria and debris in an infant, and to keep it moist and sensitive in an adult. Mention the frenulum, which is the most sensitive part of the penis, but is scraped away in amost all circumcisons.

Heck, just give them the Lost List.

I think seeing that the foreskin has purpose and is beneficial can sway some people who are on the fence and worried about societal reaction. They are thinking of the foreskin as useless and potentially embarassing- we have to show them otherwise!

 

[muckemom]

My sis circ'd and it still to this day causes issues between the two of us. Everytime I change my nephews dipe... I cringe.

 

[GoodMomma]

Quote:

Originally Posted by PapayaMom My sweet little nephew born on Firday night was circ'd. My brother was the one on the fence. I had a conversation with him about it the day before it happened and he admitted it seemed like a weird thing to do since there were no medical benefits. He said the only thing that was a pro was the soceital pressure, he felt taht his ds would have a hard time if he wasn't. I told him that more and more people were not and certainly if they chose not to he would not be the only little boy who wasn't. it still didn't matter. I feel so bad for this little guy so much intervention already in his short life. Induction-csection-circ its a wonder he is bf'ing as well as he is. Breaks my heart.

So sorry to hear that!

My son was born in Syracuse! We used to live in Chittenango but we now live in New Hartford. What hospital?

 

[blsilva]

I'm so sorry! My brother & his wife are trying to have a baby, and I am cringing, too, because I know that they will do the same. It doesn't seem to matter to them that it is unnecessary, traumatizing, and cruel. My brother is deadset, and there is no arguing with him- I've tried. Poor little baby.

 

[trmpetplaya]

's I have a few years before I'll be having any nieces or nephews (I'm much the oldest in my family), and I dread the thought that any of my future nephews might be circumcised

I hope we have a boy next so that I have a really good reason to bring it up and prove that it's not a bad thing to have an intact son!

love and peace.

 

[Siana]

It breaks my heart too

 

[PapayaMom]

Thank you everyone. I helped with a change the other day the poor little guy I don't know how you could do that.

Quote:

So sorry to hear that! My son was born in Syracuse! We used to live in Chittenango but we now live in New Hartford. What hospital?

He was born at Crouse. Which is where DD wsa born too, totally opposite birth experiences. Mine was a great natural birth my doc really uphelp my birth plan. Hers was full of interventions but all requested by her. I am just glad they are both recovering and on their way to a successful nursing relationship.

 

[GoodMomma]

My son was born at Crouse as well. Well I'm glad all is ok with mom and baby (expect his circ)

. At least she's nursing!

 

[Alexander's Mommy]

OMG, I totally could have posted this! My nephew was born on the 12th and we just met him for the first time yesterday. Induction, epidural, C-section, and guess what... they circ'd him. I have had several conversations with my SIL over the past few months and I really thought she was in agreement with me... but apparently not! Poor baby. And when she told me, she seemed pleased by how fast it had healed. Grr. She also feels that the hospital staff did a wonderful job with helping her through her birth and looking after them and she can't understand why the baby hadn't descended into her pelvis and she ended up with the section (umm... cause he wasn't ready to be born). I love them both, but I feel like they're heading down a very mainstream road and it makes me sad.

My two year old is as intact as they come, and so will the son we're expecting in January be... despite my husband not being intact. At least one of the brothers broke with family traditions.

Hugs to our baby nephews!

 

[Jillie]

I'm sorry, I know how you feel. My sister had her 3rd son in April, and I still find it hard to talk to her. How can seemingly smart people be so dense?

 

[Mountaingirl3]

Me too.

: I'm really struggling with it. My sis was against it, but her dh was absolutely adament. I told her everything I know, no holds barred. We were both crying at the end of our conversations. I begged her to wait just one week.

Sweetest, dearest nephew was born at 36 weeks. Circ'd in hospital. Stopped breastfeeding afterwards. Sis is pumping and bottlefeeding, hopefully on her way to breastfeeding again . . .

The doc in hospital told them that 90% of boys are circ'd.

I love her so much--my best friend. I'm doing everything I can to help them successfully directly breastfeed.

Why is it legal to do this? To a preemie?

 

[Paper-Bag-Princess]

I'm so sorry.

:

the pp asked how this can be legal, and to do this to a preemie..? I want my mil to answer that question.

Someone I used to be friends with, asked when her 2 month premature baby could be circumcised, the nurse tore her a new one and suggested (strongly) that her son had been through enough and didn't need to add circumcision to the laundry list of issues....and even after all of our conversations she had her second son circumcised "because daddy is".....