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I seemed to be putting too much stress on myself and on ds, just turned 3, for behaviors that irritated me. So now I have criteria for intervening that I love because it slows me down to evaluate FIRST before expending the energy on something inconsequential.<br><br>
Here it is:<br><br>
How dangerous is this behavior?<br>
How destructive is it?<br>
How disgusting is it?<br><br>
If it's a little dangerous - I just watch to see he what he is learning.<br><br>
If it's a little destructive and no one else's property is involved... ok.<br><br>
If it's only a bit disgusting I ignore it. Spitting, however, is only allowed outside in the backyard when their is no company.<br><br>
Sometimes I tell him about the behavior - " If you run looking behind you, you may not see the tree and run into it." Thank you, George of the jungle! Or, "If you keep pulling on that, it might break."<br><br>
Life for has been easier since I started my 3D system. I'm sure it's not new but I love it!<br><br>
What is your system for discipline sanity?<br><br><br>
Rebecca <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bouncy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bouncy">
 

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Well I'm not sure it's "sanity" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> but I really rely on having a sense of humor. It is the saving thing for me (and dd). If dd is driving me nutsoid, I just have to use humor to change the entire negative focus and it usually works. For example, we were having a "getting on pajamas" war the other night. I told her several times that she had to put on her pjs and then she could have her milk. She started having a royal fit about putting on the pjs so I just walked into her room and said, "I'm putting your pajamas on" and I put the bottoms on my head! She started cracking up and said, "no mommy, I do it!" and she put them right on.<br><br>
It's not always easy but I try to maintain my sense of humor with her. In fact, I try to maintain my sense of humor in every single situation so why should she be any different?<br><br>
I like your suggestions, I'll use them!
 
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