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Alrighty guys,<br><br>
For my prenatal care I have been going to a 6 practice office...and up till todays appointment they've been great. I see them once a week for a FFT and a cervical lenght ultrasound due to baby 1 coming 13 weeks early....<br><br>
Anywho, at my second to last visit, a doc I hadn't seen before was going to set up an appointment to do the GTT. I declined, and he was fine with it.<br><br>
Fast forward to today...I see a new doc and he gets angry, like threatening/yelling/pissed off angry (while he is doing a pelvic FFT by the way!) and tells me that no patient of his will decline this, that it's mandatory for Meridian's clinic and that if I decline again I must see another practice. Then takes off his gloves and throws them in the trash, and SLAMS the door behind him. THEN later after the sonographer does the cervial length test, he goes on to tell me that I AM getting the GTT done Sunday (I work Tues-Sat) at the hospital, and then on Monday come back to Meridian and get the Rhogam injection. (And I also told him I wasn't doing Rhogam since I am getting a tubal after this baby and he said not getting the shot wasn't an option) I thought ALL tests and procedures were optional......<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I am literally in tears with the way this man treated me. My husband was about to deck the lights out of him...he was that terrible.<br><br>
So...I guess I am out of a doctor at 28 weeks.<br><br>
I guess it's a blessing though to find out this man is a complete jerk now than to find out if he is the one on call when my baby is to be delivered.<br><br>
*Sigh*<br><br>
Is there anything I can do? Can I report this evil, evil man so no other woman has to go through this?<br><br><br>
Thanks in advance....<br>
Beth
 

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(((HUGS))) That's terrible!!! I don't know of a way to report him and the way he treated you, and YES you can find someone else. Ask your girlfriends or doula or a referral, that way at least you know that they were good to your friends so they should be good to you too.
 

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I'd call your state licensing board and ask about ethics, informed consent, etc. and tell them your experience. File a formal report.<br><br>
I'd also call the office manager, and speak with him or her about your experience. If you can avoid this one MD (may not be possible, I know b/c it's not with my practice) maybe you could keep going to the others...<br><br>
Of course, you may not want to ever go back to that office. I probably wouldn't return unless I had NO other choice. Then again, I didn't have the easiest time finding an OB/Gyn in the first place.
 

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Wow! That is just awful. Definetly file a formal report.<br>
I think he is just trying to use a scare tactic of he doesn't know pateint's rights. I would still change care providers because you don't want that negativity. I hope you find someone soon!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"> HOW HORRIBLE!! I would most certainly complain, it is totally out of line for a doctor to treat a patient that way. Last time I checked, you and the rest of the patents he sees are the reason he gets a paycheck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad"> I am so so sorry mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Oh sweetie, that is just HORRIBLE! NO ONE should ever ever be treated that way. It is YOUR body and you can decline the test if you want to. I hate that some drs feel that they are Gods and get all upset when people question them, its just NOT right. We are paying THEM! We are the ones who let them live in nice houses and drive nice cars not the other way around! ARRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH<br><br>
WOW sorry about that but I got a bit upset. I had to walk away for a min.<br><br>
I hope that you call the office and talk to the manager, then report him to whoever you can. I wish I knew who to tell you to report him to though.<br><br>
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Beth))))))))))))) ))))))))))))))))))<br><br>
You can and you will find another OB who will treat you like a person so don't give up! You deserve better than this!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'd call your state licensing board and ask about ethics, informed consent, etc. and tell them your experience. File a formal report.<br><br>
I'd also call the office manager, and speak with him or her about your experience.</div>
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You have a right to decline anything you do not want done to your body- I think they way this doc treated you borders on sexual abuse since he was in the middle of a pelvic exam... an outrage!<br><br>
I am so sorry that you have to go through this...
 

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I know someone who refused the GTT and was subsequently dropped from an OB practice.<br><br>
I have had no problems with this same practice and the same doctor actually let my dh deliver our last baby. But then again, I only refuse genetic testing (which they don't have a problem with.) No rhyme or reason, I guess.
 

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I suspect that they may require their patients complete these tests because of malpractice insurance requirements. JMHO.<br><br>
It's horrible that the Doctor could not calmly explain to you that there are insurance reasons that the practice requires it's patients complete these tests and you are free to seek services elsewhere if you opt not to receive them at their clinic.<br><br>
However, I think it would be unethical to leave you without care while you seek another OB.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'd call your state licensing board and ask about ethics, informed consent, etc. and tell them your experience. File a formal report.<br></div>
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exactly!
 

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That's terrible! I'm so sorry. He could have had some decency when telling you this instead of being as stupid hothead! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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How horrible!!<br><br>
Write the AMA a letter of complaint...and the Better Business Bureau, for sure.<br><br>
Also, write his office a letter explaining how completely disgusted you are by this man's behavior.<br><br>
I'm so sorry you had to experience that...but thank goodness, because who wants this a-hole delivering your baby??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: doc is insane! report him!
 

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I know Rhogam is controversial, but one reason for getting it even if you don't want to have any more children is just to prevent antibodies from forming in your blood, if you ever in the future need a blood transfusion.<br><br>
I agree with others who say to report this person.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I suspect that they may require their patients complete these tests because of malpractice insurance requirements. JMHO.<br><br>
It's horrible that the Doctor could not calmly explain to you that there are insurance reasons that the practice requires it's patients complete these tests and you are free to seek services elsewhere if you opt not to receive them at their clinic.<br><br>
However, I think it would be unethical to leave you without care while you seek another OB.</div>
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They may have "requirements" for those reasons, but still they can't force a woman to do them. I am fairly certain that if they do decide to drop a patient they *must* give a certain grace period for you to find an alternative health care provider that can meet your needs/wishes. If you cannot find a HCP and you do give reasonable effort I am also fairly certain that they *must* continue to care for you reguardless of their "requirements". Not that you want to take this to court if it goes that far--and I bet you would be able to find an appropriate HCP, but *know* that they just cannot drop you at a moments notice like that. If you need emergent care they MUST MUST MUST care for you.<br><br>
This is a link about EMTALA that is a good source for the actual laws and regulations about patient dumping, etc. <a href="http://www.medlaw.com/" target="_blank">http://www.medlaw.com/</a><br><br><br>
He most definitly should have explained it to you in a calm manner. It's called informed refusal and good bed-side manner.<br><br>
KNOW YOUR RIGHTS.
 

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hUM. I had my OB spaz, I switched to another dr. in the practice who's more in line with my views. Can you also switch to the Dr. that was OK with the no-GTT?
 

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You have every right to decline any and all testing, procedures, etc.,<br>
not that you would want to stay at this practice after the way the dr treated you, however once a patient/doctor relationship is begun it cannot be terminated until either<br>
a. patient no longer needs care<br>
b. both parties agree to terminate<br>
c. adequate time has been given for patient to seek other care options.<br><br>
The practice cannot release you until you find appropriate care just an FYI. technically the dr is supposed to also arrange for care of another physician who agrees to take you on
 

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I think most would consider 28 weeks still adequate time to find other treatment unfortunately.<br><br>
His treatment and behavior was awful, but they do have a right to refuse you service if you refuse to follow thier care guidelines. Anyhow, I think you are lucky to have found out now so you can find someone better for you and your baby!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think most would consider 28 weeks still adequate time to find other treatment unfortunately.<br><br>
His treatment and behavior was awful, but they do have a right to refuse you service if you refuse to follow thier care guidelines. Anyhow, I think you are lucky to have found out now so you can find someone better for you and your baby!</div>
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while she does still have adequate time technically, if she needs care in the interim they HAVE to treat her. So should an emergency arise, she could go to them. Also if no other care provider is available they have to continue to see her.<br>
She is definitely lucky to find out now rather than at 38 weeks. I wouldn't want someone like that delivering my child. EEK
 
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