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and we are not sure what has caused them. He will see a specialist next month. I just wanted to share about him here to see if any of you could give me some thoughts. As a baby he seemed like every other child...he cooed and made baby noises, he rolled over around 3 months, sat up at 7 months and started to slither around 6 months. At 1 year he still had not crawled and still slithered a little but most of the time he would stay where we sat him--he didn't try to pull up. Finally I started pushing him to crawl by putting him the crawling position over and over again and then he started to crawl and pull up around 13 months. Then I started pushing him to stand and walk. He seemed very afraid to leave the furniture he was holding but by 16 months he started to walk (very unsteady). By 18 months I could tell he understood things I was saying, such as "do you want breakfast?" because he walked over to his highchair. By 2 he only knew appr. 8 words. Shortly after his 2nd birthday he started learning a bunch of words but he still won't say sentences. If I say, "Do you want milk?" He'll reply "Milk". Every once in a while he'll go into the kitchen near the cabinet where the crackers are and point and say his word for cracker. Now at 28 months he knows appr. 20-25 words. He can follow simple commands like bring me your shoes...or hand me the phone. Sometimes he doesn't do it but if I already have his attention then he does. It is hard to "teach" him things--he seems to learn at a slower pace than other children. He is shy around a group of kids but will play and interact with them one-on-one. He plays with DH and I and his baby brother...he does show emotion and if the baby cries he comes to him and brings him toys. He walks fine, except he doesn't run and he most of the time walks on his tip toes or with his feet spread apart like for balance. Many people who don't know him have commented that he is just learning to walk (been walking for a year now...)

We just don't know if he is just "slow" to learn and develop or if he has a problem or condition. When he was born he had the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and it was making his heart rate dip and he was a forceps delivery because of that. The forceps hurt his head, too. I don't know if those two things have anything to do with everything else. He seems to be about 10 months behind his peers, now, in his development.

I know this was long...thanks for reading.
 

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We just don't know if he is just "slow" to learn and develop or if he has a problem or condition. When he was born he had the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and it was making his heart rate dip and he was a forceps delivery because of that. The forceps hurt his head, too. I don't know if those two things have anything to do with everything else. He seems to be about 10 months behind his peers, now, in his development.
I'm not really sure what, if anything, is going on with your DS, but I wanted to respond to this part of your post.

For the vast majority of the people on this board there is no knowable "source" for their child's condition. You can take two children and give them mother's who eat the same, bfeed the same length of time, have similar births & parenting styles... and get two very different children. DS was born with three full wraps of the cord, blue & not breathing and he walked at 9 months. You'll get kids who had totally tramatic birth experiences w/meconium asperation, no pulse, etc... who go on to show no effects, others with perfect births who go on to have major disabilities. I just wanted to address this because I wanted to
and say, please, please, please don't go down the path of blaming yourself. You sound like a very caring mother.
 

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Thanks for replying. I used to blame myself a lot for him not learning like all of his friends do. I thought I wasn't teaching him well enough (I stay at home with him and his baby brother). I used to compare him and wonder what is going on. I've accepted that for now, at least, he is a little bit behind the rest of his age group.
 

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You need to have him evaluated by Early Intervention (EI), call a local hospital or ask Ped. for the name of the Agency in your area (different name everywhere). EI covers until 3 and then public school takes over. My son was in EI for a speech delay and is in the public school preschool program and it has helped him alot. They provide speech and other therapies as needed to help our kids get over these delays. EI can tell you just how behind his is and help him catch up.

Don't blame yourself, just get him help now that you know he is behind. It took until my son was 27 months until I got him help.

Doreen
 

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When a child has motor issues, very often their speech is slower as well. Getting the body moving helps the entire brain to develop. You son may have muscle tone issues. I agree with the pp who suggested getting him evaluated by an EI team. I got tons more info when i took my child to Children's Hosp for an evaluation. (While the local EI program was helpful, they didn't have Drs working for them. One of the people who evaluated my child had only a BA in Early Childhood. I wanted someone with more specialized education/exp in neurological and physical development to do a full eval). My insurance covered that completely. Once we addressed my child's motor issues, everything else fell into place. It sounds like you are a very thoughtful mother doing all the right things. The toe walking should be addressed at this point, I think.
 

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I want to add, take him to a developmental ped and a neurologist too! A hearing test will also rule that out as a cause. Some kids just need help learning language and don't pick it up from everyday life. My son had testing outside of EI and saw several doctors in addition to what EI did; which was just to detect the delay and if he was behind enough for services. Luckily I had a friend who was already in EI and gave me doctors names to go see but EI should be able to help you if you don't have a personal resource for doctors.
 
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