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Hi other mamas! After a very long and fun (yet somewhat trying day) I have some thoughts for us all. Please don't flame me everything is IMHO! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
I think we all need to step back, and give ourselves a huge pat on the back. Most of us grew up in homes where our parents spanked, yelled, jerked us roughly by the arms, and for some people, even worse. These are the behaviors that are conditioned into our reflexes for how children should be treated. It took me an hour to put a clean diaper on Antonin tonight. An entire hour! Externally I was a very patient mommy, but inside I was seething. I know for a fact that if I were "mainstream" he would have gotten his cute little legs popped. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> (I hate even thinking about that.)<br><br>
We spend so much time worrying about every little thing we might do wrong that we aren't looking at the bigger picture. The very fact that we are commited to gentle discipline, that we don't use scare tactics, force, and violence to deal with our kids is truly worth praising. So maybe you said "Good job" when your daughter interuppted you--again!--by showing you a drawing that looked like a scribbled blob while you were on the phone with your hard-of-hearing grandma calling from Russia, instead of saying, "Oh, I see. You put a lot of time into that. Can you tell me about it?" So what! It's not a huge deal if you say "good job" or if you tell your kids to leave you alone for a moment, or if it takes you a moment to answer them when they holler at you. That's one of my problems, I can get so caught up in something that I just don't hear my name. I don't mean to be rude, at those times I'm in a zone of my own. :LOL<br><br>
I guess the point I'm trying to make is, we're great, and I know it! Trust yourselves, mamas. Everyone of you is wonderful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
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Good job on that post! :LOL<br><br>
Seriously, thanks for the reminder that we all need sometimes! I know after ds purposefully dumped his water on the livingroom floor for the 3rd time yesterday while dd was screaming from what I think is teething pain, I responded to him in a not-so-gentle tone of voice. But then we went to get towels and he happily helped me clean it up,(I think that's what he wanted in the first place!!) and dd stopped crying, and I realized that in another time and place, that situation could've been a lot worse; a time-out, tears, a mountain-out-of -a molehill. I wasn't a model of gentle discipline, but my relationship with my son remained intact....it's only water anyway! Thank goodness for GD giving me the ability to step back and change course when things start to go downhill!
 
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