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I don't know how appropriate it is to post my story here, but I thought it might be nice to read other experiences of VBAC attempts.<br><br>
DD was born via c section 36 hrs after I had ROM and then a failed induction at 24 hrs. I felt robbed of my homebirth and railroaded into a c section. I felt that I should have waited longer to see if my body would go into labour.<br><br>
This time around I was determined to have a VBAC and it really looked like it was going to happen. I went into labour naturally last tuesday at 7.30am and the ctx were really great - strong and regular. By 1pm I was 4 cm dilated and we were all excited because this was further than I had gone last time. I started having really heavy transition type ctx and my doula was convinced that I was in transition. Another check at 7pm and I was STILL at 4cm. It was very demoralizing. We all talked (mw, doula, DH, me) and decided to try and epidural to see if it would relax my body enough to dilate. By 10pm I was still at 4cm and the baby wasn't descending. I knew what this meant. We talked some more and our only real options were to augment with pitocin or go for a c section. We decided that the augmentation was silly because ctx were not a problem at all and I didn't want to put the baby into distress. I also knew that pit increases the risk for UR, so we decided to go straight for the c section.<br><br>
Strangely enough I felt ok with this. It's because WE made the choice in the end and were surrounded by our mw and doula rather than hostile nurses and OBs etc.<br><br>
When the OB was doing the section she commented that it was very very difficult to get through my abdominal wall because there was so much scar tissue and she had barely seen anything like it. This made me feel lucky that it wasn't a crash c section.<br><br>
So now I am now so upset about missing out on a natural birth but annoyed at the recovery from a c section. I hate not being able to pick up my DD or sit up in bed easily. I am also in a fair amount of pain as I am only taking OTC meds.<br><br>
Anyway, I hope this offers a different perspective to VBAC. Overall the prep I did for the VBAC resulted in a much better birth experience despite the fact that it ended up a repeat c section.<br><br>
Good luck to everyone who is having a VBAC!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sorry things didn't go as planned.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Congrats on your new baby and wishing you a speedy recovery!
 

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I am sorry that you were unable to VBAC for this birth but glad to hear that your c/section went well and your little one is safely with you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
I don't know if this is the same type of scar tissue but a friend of mine had a procedure to remove scar tissue from her c/section before she conceived #2. I didn't even know this was an option. If it is a concern, it may be something to look into in the future.<br><br>
Welcome Emmett!
 

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Some things are beyond one's control...what matters is that you gave it your best and that you are at peace about the whole experience. Congratulations on your second baby!
 

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I also had a failed VBAC attempt with #2, labored hard for 30+ hours during which I dilated to 10 and baby never descended (definitely posterior, possible bad head positioning). But like you, I tried my very best, I called all the shots, and I felt at peace with it at the time.<br><br>
Be gentle with yourself -- it may take a while to process everything. I am still working through some emotions 2 1/2 years later. I find I feel good about it sometimes, and awful about it at other times. Often, I feel extremely defensive about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I hope you have a peaceful and smooth physical and emotional recovery, mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Congrats on your new baby! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I am so sorry to hear that you didn't get to have your vbac. I hope you have a quick recovery. hugs. and congratulations on your new baby boy!
 

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Making the choices and having support can be empowering even if things don't turn out as you'd hoped. Congratulations on your baby's birth!
 

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Thanks for all the support! I am feeling better, but still occasionally teary about it, especially when I can't pick up DD.
 

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Thank you for posting your story - I'm very sorry your birth didn't turn out the way you'd hoped, and wish you a quick recovery. I think it's really important for women who are planning VBACs to hear from each other both when it goes well *and* when it does not. Knowing that you're not the only one for whom the VBAC didn't happen can make it feel like less of a "failure". (And remember - statistically about 30% of VBAC attempts do not result in a vaginal birth - so you're in good company).<br><br>
Congratulations on your baby! Remember at the end of the day, you made the best choices that you could given the information you had. Honestly, that's all any of us can ask for -- the fact that you made the call and did not feel forced/coerced into it can make all the difference in coming to terms with the process.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't know how appropriate it is to post my story here, but I thought it might be nice to read other experiences of VBAC attempts.<br><br>
DD was born via c section 36 hrs after I had ROM and then a failed induction at 24 hrs. I felt robbed of my homebirth and railroaded into a c section. I felt that I should have waited longer to see if my body would go into labour.<br><br>
This time around I was determined to have a VBAC and it really looked like it was going to happen. I went into labour naturally last tuesday at 7.30am and the ctx were really great - strong and regular. By 1pm I was 4 cm dilated and we were all excited because this was further than I had gone last time. I started having really heavy transition type ctx and my doula was convinced that I was in transition. Another check at 7pm and I was STILL at 4cm. It was very demoralizing. We all talked (mw, doula, DH, me) and decided to try and epidural to see if it would relax my body enough to dilate. By 10pm I was still at 4cm and the baby wasn't descending. I knew what this meant. We talked some more and our only real options were to augment with pitocin or go for a c section. We decided that the augmentation was silly because ctx were not a problem at all and I didn't want to put the baby into distress. I also knew that pit increases the risk for UR, so we decided to go straight for the c section.<br><br>
Strangely enough I felt ok with this. It's because WE made the choice in the end and were surrounded by our mw and doula rather than hostile nurses and OBs etc.<br><br>
When the OB was doing the section she commented that it was very very difficult to get through my abdominal wall because there was so much scar tissue and she had barely seen anything like it. This made me feel lucky that it wasn't a crash c section.<br><br>
So now I am now so upset about missing out on a natural birth but annoyed at the recovery from a c section. I hate not being able to pick up my DD or sit up in bed easily. I am also in a fair amount of pain as I am only taking OTC meds.<br><br>
Anyway, I hope this offers a different perspective to VBAC. Overall the prep I did for the VBAC resulted in a much better birth experience despite the fact that it ended up a repeat c section.<br><br>
Good luck to everyone who is having a VBAC!</div>
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My vba2 failed too. My beautiful baby girl was born on April 24th and I just havent had time to post the birth story (and its kind of upsetting at the time)<br>
Nursing at night with no pain killers is horrible and I cant believe Ive had 3 c sections. Ill add more later, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone and if you need to chat.. just send me a message.
 

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Of course we want to hear!!! You really gave it your all there. I'm so sorry that your VBAC didn't happen. But I am glad that you felt in control of the decisions that you made. I think that is very important. Congrats on the birth of your dd!!
 

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I am sorry to hear you end up with a section again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I recall one of your first posts about your vbac and that you were facing some difficulties with your midwife. Did you finally have the chance to change for another one?<br>
Your story sounds like there was some mal positioned baby issue. For what I 've read when dilation doesn't seem to progress with a strong contracting uterus it could be due to baby's position. Did your doula and mw try anything else before the option of the epidural?<br>
Did you take your placenta home? I think having your placenta plus breastfeeding would really help healing both physically and emotionally.<br>
Congratulation on your beautiful baby
 

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Congrats! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I know how it feels to want it so badly and end up with another c-section. I felt sad after my vba2c attempt failed. But it gets better with time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am sorry to hear you end up with a section again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I recall one of your first posts about your vbac and that you were facing some difficulties with your midwife. Did you finally have the chance to change for another one?<br>
Your story sounds like there was some mal positioned baby issue. For what I 've read when dilation doesn't seem to progress with a strong contracting uterus it could be due to baby's position. Did your doula and mw try anything else before the option of the epidural?<br>
Did you take your placenta home? I think having your placenta plus breastfeeding would really help healing both physically and emotionally.<br>
Congratulation on your beautiful baby</div>
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Actually, my mw and I reconcilled by the end and I was sad that she was at another birth when the time came! Apparently there was a slight malposition and the mw's thoughts are that I might not have a 'roomy' pelvis so any malposition would be problematic.<br><br>
We tried labouring in many positions - all fours, lunges, squats etc etc etc.<br><br>
I did take the placenta home but even though I asked for it the OB forgot so the midwife had to dig it out of a bin of medical waste including gauze etc. It's in the freezer now and I am going to plant it as I don't think it's been treated as a food product.<br><br>
My mw also said that sahe was v disappointed to learn that some people actually do have small pelvises. FWIW my LOs are half asian so I am wondering if that has something to do with it. Not sure if asian babies are generally smaller. Mine were both 7lbs 13oz.
 

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Offering support and hugs from another momma who did not get her VBAC either and ended up with a repeat c-section. Yours is a powerful story about the birth process and your decision making in it. I also want to let you know there are a couple of c-section thread floating around in the birth & beyond forum. Several of us are there to share our stories, and lend a sympathic ear.<br><br>
Again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to you warrior mama for an awesome birth and Welcome Emmett! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 
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