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any good links friends on how to handle this??<br><br>
SIL just called me and is trying to find the best way to handle this...I want to find the best attachment oriented suggestion for dealing with it that I can.<br>
...thanks for any help or advice...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 

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My feeling is it isn't a problem either- here are some past threads<br><a href="http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=64251&highlight=nails+OR+thumb" target="_blank">oral fixation</a><br><a href="http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=37049&highlight=nails+OR+thumb" target="_blank">thumb sucking</a>
 

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I have an almost 3yo who is a nail biter. I'm prone to think it is a problem, stemming from insecurity about something. I'm a nail biter myself, my mom said I started doing so shortly after I started preschool. This nail biting stuff w/ my son started after his sister was born, when she required lots of attention, and even though I was tandem nursing them, I wasn't too thrilled about nursing him. I notice when I bite my nails, it's not just wanting to do it, it is set off by stress or anxiety. As for stopping it, I'm wondering if it can even be done. If we comment on how he should not bite his nails, it may hurt his feelings. I try to be funny about it and say "no nail bits" (he calls it that) in a funny way, which usually makes him laugh.
 

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Okay I understand that it can be a sign of insecurity or anxiety or stress, but there is no way that pointing to the nail biting or asking him to stop is going to help any of those, in fact it is only going to increase insecurities. If they want to attack the problem from the angle of my child is _______ (stressed, anxious, ect) how can I help her emotional world be steadier. Then their might be some things they can do. But I also think that it is a realativly harmless way for a person to deal with stress or insecurities.<br><br>
Just the words of a long time thumb sucker, nail biter, hair twirler<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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SIL says my nephew is biting his fingers bloody...I would have a tendanacy to think that the nail biting is anxiety driven...long story...<br>
Again he is only 2.....<br>
I did find two articles that were well versed on the issue and most everything I read is that it can be anxiety related...depending on the person....and sometimes it will just *go away* but I do not think it is the case with my dn ....<br><br>
I worry about him always.... not getting enough compassion and love...emotionally he needs the grounding to help ease this biting
 

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I would drop the nail biting thing altogether and try to get to the emotions behind the behavior. Turning the nail biting into an issue is only going to make matters worse.
 
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