[annarbor931]

I want some input, mamas. I am engaged to be married this year. My DS and I have XH's last name. I want to try to change DS last name to my maiden name, but I can't for another year (according to court rules it has to be 2 years of no contact). I hate having X's last name, especially since he has NO contact with DS. I am getting married in Nov and I am thinking of changing my last name to my new husband's name. But, DS would be the only one with a different last name. I could wait until next Aug/Sept and change my last name to my maiden name and hopefully change DS's too. But, it costs $250 for each of us to change out name. I will pay it, of course, but I am thinking that in a few years my new husband will likely adopt DS. So, then I would want to change my name again then. So, what do you all think? It is important for me for DS not to feel like the odd man out. At 2 1/2, he doesn't even know his name, so I hope this issue can be resolved before he goes to school, etc.

What do you all think?

 

[MamaDaednu]

Hold off. Absolutely. I wouldn't leave DS with a different name from everyone else.

 

[mistymeltzer]

wait until your new dh adopts your ds, and then change your name and your ds name to your dh name.

 

[spiritmomma]

As much as it may be hard to sign it, or write it on a form for your DC, please hold off. It would be much more confusing for a child to change more than once than it would be to change once...
Besides, your DC doesn't know why his last name is painful for you. You can explain to him when the time is emotionally and age appropriate.

Good Luck!

 

[CalebsMama05]

i wouldnt change his name unless ur dh adopts him.