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My cousin just had her baby yesterday and named him our boy name. This was the one and only name that we had picked out for our baby. I'm really upset over this. We didn't announce any of our name choices, and heck, we don't even know if we're having a boy or girl. But with hormones and all, I'm angry and upset that our perfect name has been used.<br><br>
It didn't help that when my mom delivered the news and heard my reply, she laughed half apologizing.<br><br>
So what do we do? If we have a boy, do we use the name anyway or do we try to come up with something else? I haven't seen or talked to this cousin in 20 years. She's lives on the opposite side of the country and the only time I might ever see her is at my grandparents' funeral. If we use it, then my grandparents will have 2 great-grandsons with the same name, and we'll never hear the end of it from family.<br><br>
Oh, and at 33 weeks, we don't have an inkling of a middle name for either gender and I'm not satisfied with our girl name, so we're a bit challenged in the naming department for this baby.
 

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welll....if this isn't someone you actually ever see, talk to, etc. and you really love your name, I'd stick with it. I know people who are cousins with overlapping names - especially if they are family names. My brother and cousin have the smae middle name - my grandpa's middle name. Also, my nephew and cousin have the same name (Witt and Whit), and it really isn't confusing to those of us who bridge them to each other - we just use their last names when necessary. If anyone makes a comment about it, just say that you had picked the name long before they had their baby and saw no reason to change it. And you may want to go ahead and tell your mom that you are sticking with the name so that she can get over laughing about it now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> . Not sure if it's a nick-nameable name, but the kids may end up having totally different names that they are called. I bet there are a lot of "great-grandkids" with overlapping names - that's a pretty widely cast net in some families.<br><br>
I stressed about this when SIL and I were pregnant at the same time - we "called" our names early just in case we had overlap. Our kids, however, are growing up together very closely. Sounds like you and this cousin are very distant.
 

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I'm actually going to use a name that one of my cousins already used. We see each other several times a year...but oh well. She's cool with me using the name too.<br><br>
The history of how this came about:<br>
When I was pregnant with my DD who is 5 my cousin was pregnant with her DD. She had her DD first. We didn't talk much throughout her pregnancy but I went to see her at the hospital. She named her DD the name I had picked out for a DD if that is what I had. However, I had an u/s and was told I was having a boy. So I told my cousin, oh well, I am having a boy. haha.<br><br>
Turns out I had a girl. I did pick another name. However, this particular name is still a top choice for me. I talked to my cousin over the summer, was pregnant then, and told her that name was still a fave of mine. She said "Use it, I don't own it!" and we laughed and I said I knew that, but didn't want her to be upset over it. She couldn't have cared less. So that's where we're at...if we have a girl she'll have the same name as one of her cousins, whom she rarely sees.
 

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I would use it. Who cares what the other people think. At least you know it is a name other people like and won't give you a hard time about it(like us)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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If you love it, I think you should use the name anyway. I have a cousin who is 2 weeks younger than my oldest sister--they have the same first name. We always just called them by their first and middle names when we were together to avoid confusion (Jenifer Ellen and Jenifer Kay). And you know what, the rest of us were a little jealous b/c they were "the Jennifers" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Seriously, if the name feels right to you, don't let a cousin you never see stop you from using it.
 

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I say use it too. Personally, if it was close family I would be disappointed, but I would choose another name. However, since you guys rarely see each other then I say go for it!!
 

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It's your name!! Keep it! lol<br><br>
Luckily, I do NOT have this disagreement with my sis, due 4 weeks after me. I really just don't like her boy name, and I've already chosen a girl name.
 

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Hi,<br><br>
I think you can totally keep the name for your own! My brother and our first cousin are both named Michael....my dad and his sister both had the same boy's name picked out. When my cousin Michael was born 4 months before me, my dad was upset that his sister used the name they were planning for me if I had been a boy. two years later, they had my brother and named him Michael. There are only 4 grandchildren in the family, and it has NEVER been a problem. One was called Michael and the other, Mike. Even now as adults, we always know to which one we are referring.<br><br>
Go for it!
 

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Personally, with babies born this close together, I wouldn't use it. Even if you don't talk to each other often, you have other relatives in common that obviously DO keep in contact. JMO<br><br>
I've had a girl name picked out for over 20 years, but it is VERY popular now, and before we knew what we were having, I decided I wouldn't use it. I just want my child to have a more unique identity. But again, that's just me.
 

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Naw, I couldn't do it. Even if you aren't close, you will run into this family a couple times a year and things will be confusing for the boys.<br><br>
I just feel strongly that a kid should have their own name.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hi,<br><br>
I think you can totally keep the name for your own! My brother and our first cousin are both named Michael....my dad and his sister both had the same boy's name picked out. When my cousin Michael was born 4 months before me, my dad was upset that his sister used the name they were planning for me if I had been a boy. two years later, they had my brother and named him Michael. There are only 4 grandchildren in the family, and it has NEVER been a problem. One was called Michael and the other, Mike. Even now as adults, we always know to which one we are referring.<br><br>
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I have a plethora of "Davids" in my family... mom's side AND dad's. It never gets confusing at all.
 
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