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So, I'm 33+ weeks & I have yet to crack a baby name book or come up with any options for naming this baby. I think I'm hitting a bit of a roadblock. Is that normal? I just need the names to be perfect, and I think I'm afraid to even look.<br><br>
We don't know if this babe is a boy or girl, so need both options. I love love love my kids' names and feel the pressure to find one I love as much. I also want one that captures the meaning that finally a living breathing baby will mean to us.<br><br>
I just don't even know where to start. This is our 5th time naming a baby; you'd think we'd be better at this by now. Previously dh & I spent the whole pregnancy tossing around names, but this time I'm just holding my breath so much that picking a name almost seems like tempting fate.
 

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we had joel picked out soon after we found out he was a boy at our 19 week ultrasound. we chose his name the day after actually. i felt like after the loss of our daughter at 22 weeks i really wanted to 'bond' with him, call him by name asap. he was joel for months. all of a sudden around 34 weeks it just did not fit him anymore. i asked my husband, "What if when we meet him, we realize he isn't a 'Joel'? " Dh sort of laughed and mumbled that'd be fine if we changed it and kinda funny since we have called him Joel all this time.<br>
It's kind of silly, because I kept running into Joels that were really dorky. (lol) One was a guy that handles our insurance, ect. It just didn't fit my little guy anymore. So, I mentioned to dh about it and he actually agreed and said he had been feeling the same way. It took us only minutes to come up with Kai and it really reminds me of the senses I get from the little one. His middle name will be Ambrose. It just really fits him. And coming up with the name was easy, it just kind of clicked. I can't explain it.<br>
All I can offer is to keep your mind open. The name Kai never really screamed at me before and neither did Ambrose, but one day it was just his name. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
You won't tempt fate. Hope won't make bad things happen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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We were going over names so much during my pregnancy. We'd decided on Isabel before getting pregnant last time, we both loved it and it fitted so well. This time nothing jumped out. Leo was sort of in the lead most the time but I hadn't completely bonded with it and was waiting for something to jump out and seem perfect. Well we finally decided enough was enough and we had to pick a definate name. I was about 8cm so yes that was time to decide. Leo stuck and still felt a bit strange for me, not as perfect as Isabel had been. But that's his name now and I really like it.<br><br>
Don't stress, go throughnimbler and various top 20 lists from different countries and have a shortlist. Decide on the final name while you're actually in labor if nothing grabs you beforehand. My OH was also a bit superstitious about giving him a name till he was born and alive in our arms too. It's just how we protect ourselves.
 

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We were very reluctant to talk about names until quite late on - a PAL thing I think. I mean I knew baby would need a name even if the worst happened again but we just couldn't <i>settle</i> on anything. It felt too presumptious.<br><br>
Mind you, we were the same with Emma - her name didn't crop up once during my pregnancy. My DH suggested it during labour! I was sure she was a boy and she was going to be George!<br><br>
I found Tobias via Nimbler and really liked it but DH wasn't sold so I dismissed it and kept looking. We went into hospital for the section without a boy's name. But when he was born, he just looked like a Toby to me and DH liked the meaning and didn't have a different idea so we went with it! It's growing on DH now.<br><br>
My best friend didn't name her daughter for eleven days and someone on my DDC just took almost a month or thereabouts to name her little boy. So, it's not always vital to have it sussed beforehand.
 

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Names are so hard. We waited a long time to even think about names out loud. For us it was like well, hell when this baby dies we're going to have to name it anyway...and then on the other hand it was like I need to know this baby and bond with it.<br><br>
We ended up waiting until I was past 24 weeks. Then we took it slow. The first name we both liked ended up being the name we picked and it feels really good to think babyboy has a name.<br><br>
Really, like Jill said...it's not a big deal too if you guys don't come up with anything. Just take it slow, maybe meet the baby, and it'll come to you.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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