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So, friends of ours had a baby girl today. Not close friends, but friends nevertheless, fellow church members. And they named her Gracie Joy. I'm feeling <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: over this because we've been waiting to name our little girl (who hasn't gotten to us yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) Grace Julianne for about 5 years now.<br><br>
Of course, this couple didn't know that - I never really tell anyone our baby names.<br><br>
So can I still name her Grace (if it's a she, which of course it might not be)? I feel like it would be wrong. Would you? Or would you just change the name? And, would you tell the other couple what you were doing, if you decided to keep the name? Sort of clear it with them? Or do you think it's no one's business but your own? This mama is a very, very sensitive person, and I'm a little wary of hurting her feelings in a seemingly intentional way. Mine are hurt, of course, but it's no fault of theirs.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I feel so silly worrying about this! It's such a small thing, but 'Grace' has been our little dream-girl for such a long time now that I have a hard time letting her go, so to speak. Am I totally overreacting?
 

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I think you are definitely OK using it. If you wanted to be really nice, you could bring it up to her ahead of time, but that probably isn't necessary, especially since Grace is a pretty popular name right now.
 

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Saw this in the new threads thing. Given the number of classes I've had with 5+ Jennifers and 3+ Crystals, Grace/Gracie isn't even confusing.
 

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Crashing, sorry.<br><br>
I think you should use any name you love! If you think about it, if you couldn't use a name of anyone you knew, you'd have an extreamly limited list! Just don't name her Grace Joy and you'll be okay!<br><br>
Done crashing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Name her what you chose (beautiful name, BTW).<br><br>
When my son was born, I wanted to name him Jack, for my grandfather. My friend had just had a son and named him Jack, so I went with Jacob instead. In hindsight, I shouldn't have worried. I don't regret going with Jacob--totally fits my son.
 

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Ditto what's been said. LOVE the name Grace <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> ! Since you're not especially close, I don't think it matters, especially since it's been your choice for such a long time. I wouldn't even worry about telling them, unless they ask. just say it's the name you've had picked out for years for a baby girl, and leave it at that. None of their business what you name your children.
 

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IT is a beautiful name and you should go with it.<br><br>
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Totally name her what you've been dreaming. I know it's easy for us to say but as outsiders looking in we aren't influenced by the emotion and it makes sense for you to name your daughter what you think is best. In talking with this new mother you could comment on the daughter's name and say how close it is to what you've been dreaming of for your own daughter. Smile and laugh about it.<br><br>
You may not be in these peoples lives for very long and wouldn't you kick yourself if they changed churches shortly after you named your daughter something you don't love just because of them?<br><br>
When you dedicate your child at church, you can give the testimony that you've been waiting for a little girl named Grace Julianne to enter your lives for 5 years and now God has brought her to you. Enough said.
 

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Oh, you guys are so sweet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I'm feeling better about it, thanks to you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I totally agree with keeping the name. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Grace is a popular name right now, so it's not like they named her something really unique and you stole that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Abigail is a really popular name right now, and at my church, we have an almost-3 year old named that, then a girl was born in Jan with that name, then twins were born a few months later and one of them has that name. Not a problem!<br><br>
I think the other twin was named Hannah (I forget now... preggo brain), and we have another Hannah that is about 10 months old. I think they even both ended up being Hannah Grace! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I would use the name you want to. I would probably give the other couple a heads up just so they know, but it certainly is not something you should feel obligated to do.
 

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I'm late to the game, but I, too, would use whatever name you want. She's your child and those people may not be in your circle of friends for that long anyway.<br><br>
It's funny how things happen sometimes b/c there are two little girls in one of playgroups, and they're *both* named Sarah Elizabeth. The moms didn't know each other before they had kids and I don't think either one of them thinks any less of the other, in fact, they're pretty close friends now. I know your situation is a bit different since you are at least acquainted with these people, but again, it's you and your family. That's how I see it at least.<br><br>
What a beautiful name - I hope it works out so you can use it.
 

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I'm with all the others saying that you should name using the name that you want. As you have said it is thru no fault of the other parents that you are sad about them using the name, why would you be any more at fault for naming your child what you've dreamed of. I really like the name you've chosen, it is very pretty, and to me quite different than Gracie Joy.
 

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It's really sweet of you to feel so concerned for this momma's feelings. My thoughts on this are people are wrong if they take offense when no offense was intended. I'd let her know that's the name you have had picked for many years for a dd, should you ever have one, & tell her how much you love it & how glad you are to know you two think alike. She may not like it but she will like the fact that you think highly of her pick, being a sensitive person you say she is, I think. It's almost like flattery. If you make her feel good about it by choosing your words carefully, there should be no hard feelings.<br><br>
If it were me I wouldn't change my name choice because a friend or family member beat me to naming my child that. Don't feel wierd about it....this has been on your mind for a long time & her baby girl shouldn't change that.<br><br>
I look forward to hearing what you decide to do! I hope everything works out well, either way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I'd say definitely stick with the name you want. They are just casual acquaintances; you might be stressing out about this whole name thing, and they are planning on moving across the country next month. It would be different if the two babies were close cousins or something where they would be in contact all their lives; in this instance, I think there is no room for any hurt feelings on the other woman's part (assuming she would have them). If it came up, or if it makes you feel more comfortable, by all means explain it to the other couple that you've had your heart set on that name for years.<br><br>
I can relate to having secret hurt feelings about similar things. For example, my SIL named her DD Alexis, and I just love that name. That was even before DH and I were married, so I was sad I couldn't use that name on any girl we might have had. But as it turned out, DH wouldn't have wanted to name our DD that, so it all worked out well- now I have a niece with one of my favorite names! And I felt really slighted when BIL had the first boy of the family. I was secretly hoping and 'planning' that DH and I would be the ones with the first boy. But again that was long before we were ready to start our family. Now, years later, it really doesn't seem like any kind of an issue at all.
 

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Ugh...this happened to us twice already...my dh and I had 'Savastian' picked out for a boy, and 'Sophie' or 'Sofia' for a girl. Well, lo and behold, my two cousins name their babies, 'Sebastien' and 'Sophia'. Soooo, dh and I are debating changing names now, even though both names are spelled differently. It irks me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: that I worry about this stuff<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I am Greek, and for us names get used over and over all the time. For example, there might be six or seven little boys named "George" in the family--<br>
even with the same last name <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><br>
Unless these people offend very easily, I cannot imagine why your child having the same name as theirs would be a problem. Especially since you are not relatives, and "Grace" is such a beautiful and spiritual name.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am Greek, and for us names get used over and over all the time. For example, there might be six or seven little boys named "George" in the family--<br>
even with the same last name <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><br>
Unless these people offend very easily, I cannot imagine why your child having the same name as theirs would be a problem. Especially since you are not relatives, and "Grace" is such a beautiful and spiritual name.</div>
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I wouldn't worry about it, either. Like the pps said, it's pretty popular right now, so you'll probably be encountering Grace's, or variations on it, her whole life.<br><br>
I will say that having a very popular name can get a little confusing, from my own personal experience. But I think it's all about perspective. My dh and I, Nathan and Sarah, have gone out of our way to pick names for our children that are very un-popular so they won't have our experience of being one of many Sarahs and Nathans.<br><br>
But I also noticed that my brother and sil, two people with quite unusual names, have picked extremely popular names for their children. It's kind of funny.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am Greek, and for us names get used over and over all the time. For example, there might be six or seven little boys named "George" in the family--<br>
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I was just going to post about dh's Greek family. He has a small family, with exactly 3 female cousins. Their names are Mary, Fay, and Mary Fay, all with the same last name before marriage <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
(actually Maria, Fotina, and Maria Fotina....but they go by the shortened names above).<br><br>
Grace is such a beautiful name! I would use it with no reservations <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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