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<p>We lost our baby last week and I had a d&c this morning.  We had chosen names for a boy or a girl, but we were unable to tell the baby's gender.  DH has been thinking of this baby as a girl, and I had been thinking of a boy, so now we don't know how to name the baby.  Baby was 13 weeks.  We considered giving a gender neutral name but haven't thought of any we liked.  Or we considered giving the baby a saint's name (today was the feast of St. Nicholas) and just embrace that we don't know.    Any suggestions?  We'd like a traditional and meaningful name.  </p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>wilson</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1283943/naming-my-baby#post_16097810"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>We lost our baby last week and I had a d&c this morning.  We had chosen names for a boy or a girl, but we were unable to tell the baby's gender.  DH has been thinking of this baby as a girl, and I had been thinking of a boy, so now we don't know how to name the baby.  Baby was 13 weeks.  We considered giving a gender neutral name but haven't thought of any we liked.  Or we considered giving the baby a saint's name (today was the feast of St. Nicholas) and just embrace that we don't know.    Any suggestions?  We'd like a traditional and meaningful name.  </p>
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<p>Is your baby having any tests done? You may be able to determine gender that way.</p>
<p>Personally, I've not felt comfortable naming my babies, without certainty of gender, but many people do.</p>
<p>If you google "gender neutral names", there are heaps of ideas.<br>
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<p>we named our 3  little ones that we didn't know their gender.</p>
<p>We picked sam for the first (for samantha or samuel), Morgan for the second, and pepper for the third. For us it is important to have names to be able to refer to the loss and the baby instead of just my first m/c, etc. The names we chose for our m/c babies are different then the names we chose for our other children. We had a baby die in the second tri and we could tell he was a boy, his name fits with my other kiddos.</p>
<p>I think Nic could work well as that is gender neutral and since it is the feast of st. nicholas then it has a nice meaning. There is no wrong way to do this and no wrong name you can give your baby, it needs to work for you and your partner.</p>
 

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<p>I didn't know the gender of my losses, either. I chose their names based on meaning, and what *I* wanted their genders to be. My first baby I wanted to be a girl, and I called her Ashlyn b/c it meant "dream." It was my dream to be a mommy, and I also had a dream that the baby was a girl, and she was born too soon and was so small that I put her in a coffee cup and carried her around with me. The next week I lost her. This baby I named Brennan. I wanted a boy, and Brennan means "sorrow."</p>
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<p>Like Nicole said, there's no wrong way to do it as long as you and your DH are both comfortable with it. <span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"> I'm so sorry for your loss.</span></p>
 

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<p>I named mine Quinn. </p>
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<p>Just do a search on unisex names and you'll find tons of them. Some that I like are: Rowan, Reese, Justice, Ramsey, Reilly, Jamie, Jess or Jesse, Drew, River, Lyric, Ari,</p>
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<p>You could name the baby Nicky as it could be masculine (Nicholas) or feminine (Nicole).</p>
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<p>Sorry you are going through this and hope you come up with a name you and dh both like.</p>
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<p>My stillborn baby carries the name he was meant to have all along.</p>
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<p>My miscarried baby is still known by their "fetus" name. Think cute veggie/salad names, you'll probably guess. If I had been a little further along I might have chosen a unisex name.. but this works for us.</p>
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<p>Every set of parents has to feel this out for themselves.. there are no rules.</p>
 
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