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I'm just in knots typing this. We've been homeschooling (K for Austin) this year. Hunter sort of does PreK with us but not too structured. We're not active in our homeschool group yet, but we do Awana and kindermusik classes for some activities. Things have been going well. I admit I'm a little more laid back than I planned on being, and think we need more structure (the kids as much as I do) but I'm just always so tired (Kiki is up half the night and the boys are up at the crack of dawn), and I have low iron so I'm just not always up to going/doing everyday. The kids seem to like spending a lot of time at home though learning/playing.<br><br>
At the beginning of the summer this year DH's cousin came to live with us. DH's accountant was going on maternity leave and I was to take over for 3 or so months, and DH's cousin would watch the kids at DH's office (next room to where I work). DH was hoping that I'd like doing the books and would take the job on permanently. I said it sounded like something I might do, if we found the right childcare.<br><br>
I've had 3 nannies since cousin left in September. First one after 2 weeks disapeared. We thought it was going great, we went to disneyland, came back and couldn't get ahold of her. Next one we didn't like after the first day - so out she went. Next one seemed to call in sick every time, and finally admitted she was overbooked with 4 nanny jobs and a full time student. She only showed up twice, and every other time called or emailed at the last minute saying she couldn't come. This makes me so angry. I thought a early 20's girl would be great energy for young boys - and all I find is immature workers. This is so unfair to the kids.<br><br>
I don't think we were being unrealistic either. I was literally 10 feet away from her & the kids if she needed anything, and several times I would just keep Kiara with me. The kids have their own playroom at DH's office, and there's a ton of outside play space. So now I'm trying to do the books at home with all 3 kids, and then drive 20 minutes at night to his office to cut the checks and such. It is not going well at all. I'm so hesitant to hire another nanny to set the kids up for this crap again. We were paying quite well too!<br><br>
DH thinks we should put the kids in prek (Hunter) and kindergarten (Austin) from 8:30am - Noon. Hunter would be 3 day (option of 5), and Austin would be 5 day. It'd be at the local Christian school we'd looked at before deciding to homeschool. DH's argument is that it's stable for them, it's only a few hours in the morning - social fun time, and then we could still do our own thing in the afternoons. I'd have Kiki with me, so she'd slow work down a bit, but not too badly.<br><br>
My thoughts are that, even if we did this in January - I will not put Austin in 1st grade full day next fall. He will be homeschooled then - while I know he would do fine with a few hours in the morning - full day everyday he would not. Hunter would likely be fine for PreK & K, but again them being gone full day, and not homeschooling would kill me. I don't want them to be burnt out on school and not want to work on school stuff in the afternoons with me - btu that's a lot of school!<br><br>
We have no family nearby that can help with the kids. Honestly at this point I don't want to let DH down, since he likes me doing the books, but I'm already doing a bad job and it's not even tax time yet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I don't want to just dump the kids somewhere, which is why I thought a nanny for 4 hours twice a week in the office was a good option.<br><br>
I want to homeschool, I love being home with the kids all the time, and having flexibility to go/do what we want to. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to fight with DH over this either, so I need to compile my thoughts before discussing this further.<br><br>
What would you do if you were me?
 

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I'd try to find somebody else to do the accounting at your DH's office. Why not hire a temp through a temp agency to cover the accounting until the regular one comes off of maternity leave, instead of spending money on nannies or putting the kids in a school where you're not comfortable putting them?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: And you could be available on site as needed to help with the transition. Husbands are easier to transition than kids. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> The kids need continuity of care and an attached caretaker.<br><br><br>
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