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i currently have one DS who goes to an in home sitter the 3 days a week i work. its a great situation, we love our dcp so much. the thread about 2 kids in daycare costs got me thinking. my SIL is getting married in june and like me, she wants alot of children and wants to work part-time. we figured it out that once we have a combined total of 3 kids it would be much more cost effective to share a nanny/babysitter then spread our kids around to the various dcp available in the area. my main question is, how do we split her salary? If i have 2 kids and she has one do i pay 2/3 of her salary and SIL pays 1/3? then what happens when SIL has a 2nd kid-does the nannys pay go up a little and then we split it? i would love to hear any other advice on people who have nanny-shared before! thanks!
 

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We're just starting to discuss a similar situation. I have a friend who has a nanny for her 2 kids and she pays $8 an hour. The idea is that I would take my younger kid over there to be babysat 2 days a week this summer. After talking with my friend and the nanny we think she'll make $10 an hour while she's watching all 3 kids, we'll pay $4 and the other family will pay $6.
 

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I'm the OP on the thread about daycare for 2 kids, and I've been thinking about this too... I have one set of friends that has two little ones about the same age as my soon-to-be-eldest. At the moment, their father works from home and watches them, but they don't know how much longer that's going to be an option, so we're thinking about a nanny share and whether we'd divide the fees in half, or what...
 

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Hi, I have been working as a nanny for 7 years, so I can give you my point of view and experience of this.<br><br>
When a nanny is looking after the children of one family, her wage is NEVER dependent on the number of children, I recently changed jobs, and get the same looking after 1 baby as I did for looking after 3 children....<br><br>
In the previous job, I started when there was just one baby, and one was born every other year, so there where 3 when I left. I got a small pay rise when each child was born, but the reality of this was that it just kept my wage at the going rate due to annual inflation (so I was never being paid at a higher rate then any other nannies I knew)<br><br>
Nannies who work in a nanny share do get paid slightly more then those who work for just one family (I work in the UK, and a live-out nanny doing a share would be paid £50 - £100 more then a nanny who worked for just one family)<br><br>
But the costs are split evenly between the two families (the theory being that if you had 2 children and employed your own nanny, and your sister with her one child employed her own nanny, you would both be paying the same wage to your nannies, as her wage is not dependent on the number of children she looks after)<br><br>
A Nannies wage is dependent on how many hours she works, so the only reason that you and your sister would possible split the cost any way other than 50/50 would be say if you had the nanny looking after your children for 50 hours a week, and your sister only had her child in the care of the nanny for 40 hours. You would then pay 50/50 on the 40 hours a week that she had all the children, and you would have to cover the full cost of 10 hours that she had just your children.<br><br>
My biggest advise is to have a contract written up from the very beginning and all sign it. Other things to think about are, what happens if the nanny is sick, what happens if the children from just one family are sick, how will you work the nannies paid holiday around yours and the other families holidays, who house will the nanny look after the children at, who will provide food for the children and nanny.<br><br>
You also need to think about things like is there are two young children you may need to buy a double buggy, an extra high chair and equipment for the house that the children are being looked after at, and if the children are cared for 50/50 at each house, who/how will this be transported from one house to the other.
 

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Go here - <a href="http://www.nannynetwork.com/Naniboard/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi" target="_blank">http://www.nannynetwork.com/Naniboar...ultimatebb.cgi</a><br><br>
Then search under for "nanny share" in the subject only of the forums called "Employment Relationships" and "So What is a Nanny?"<br><br>
You should find some good info.
 

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As a nanny in the US, married to another nanny, I can offer up an opinion. Nanny sharing is a tough gig! For eveyone! I disagree with the pp who said that money doesn't go up for more kids. In my experience it does go up for more kids, there should be a raise involved for a new baby, and it should be more than your yearly raise. In addition, it is ILLEGAL in some states for a nanny to care for children of more than one family without being licensed, which most nannies aren't. If you'd be paying taxes and doing everything above board then you need to look into your states laws. If not, you're on your own for how you feel about it.<br>
I do agree with the pp on the subject of a contract though! Usually a nanny comes to work even if your kids are sick, and most nannies I know rarely call in sick since they probably got their cold from your kid. You'd have to talk about what to do if one set of kids were sick and not the other, though as we all know that probably won't last long! A contract would be a necessity! Write it all down and sign it! Your nanny should appreciate the contract as well. Remember when you're hiring a nanny that she's going to want sick days, vacation days, overtime pay, a reliable schedule, and possibly benefits like a cell phone, a gym membership, etc...<br>
Overall, it sounds like I'm against the idea, but let me just say that I'm not. I think that it can work out really well and I agree that it would probably be cheaper and better in the long run... BUT, do your homework, talk about it, sign a contract and then arrange to talk about it again, and again, and again. In my experience if you have an arrangement like this you should also have a monthly or bi-monthly meeting of all involved to talk about things.<br>
Good luck!
 

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thanks for the advice, i really appreciate it, especially you actual nannies who responded. thinking about all the possible situations that could come into play it does seem like we need a written contract to decided who does what in certain situations. we are lucky in the respect that my MIL (mother to the SIL i would be nannysharing with) doesn't work so she would be there alot of the time, helping and taking the older kids for activities and filling in on sick days, so we do have that going for us.
 

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That's not true around here. It's definitely a family by family arrangement, but in most cases I know of one additional child, whether a sibling or in a share arrangement, adds between 1/2 to 2/3 more to the nanny's hourly rate. Third kids tend to raise the rate less, but it may just be that I know of fewer examples of that.<br><br>
When I did a nanny share last year, we split the cost 50/50 with the other family EXCEPT on days when their older child was also there (just a few days throughout the year due to school holidays). When he was there, our family paid 1/3 of the total daily pay, instead of the usual 1/2, since we only accounted for 1 of the 3 kids. This was the arrangement our share partner and the nanny had used for years, and it seemed fair to us. After all, if it had been 3 kids from different families, we would have expected everyone to pay equal amounts.
 
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