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I think the easiest way to go about this is to lay it all out. This has been Noah's schedule for several months now (obviously it is not exact, but for the most part he has been like clockwork give or take 30 minutes):<br>
Between 8 and 9: Wake up and nurse<br>
10:45: Eat solids<br>
11-11:45 First nap<br>
12: Nurse<br>
3: Nurse<br>
3:15- 4:30: Second Nap<br>
5: Eat solids<br>
6: Nurse<br>
9: Nurse<br>
9:15: Goes down for the night<br><br>
About a week ago, he started not wanting to go down for that second nap until 5:30 or 6. And then he would not go to bed until later. When it is time for him to go to sleep I read him a book, sing two songs, and snuggle him in bed for less than 5 minutes and he goes right out. Lately he has even been pushing back his morning nap until 1 or 2. But then he is not tired agaon until around 6. So when I put him down at 6 he won't go to sleep at night. Do you see the horrendous cycle? What should I do? He has also been fighting me at some nap times which he has NEVER done. I don't want him to manipulate me but at the same time I don't want to force him to sleep when he isn't tired. Where do I draw the line? I am wondering if I need to try to do just one nap a day and then lay him down for bed earlier? I don't know what to do??
 

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He's not manipulating you. If he's still taking two naps a day, he's no where NEAR old enough to manipulate you. Really. No matter what your mother or the ped or whomever has told you.<br><br>
I'd imagine baby's somewhere between 9 and 15 months with that type of schedule. Probably right around a year, right? He's probably ready to go to one longer nap per day. You'll have a few rough days, maybe even a rough couple weeks, while he figures it out, but he'll get there.<br><br>
He's telling you the only way he knows how!
 

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I'm not sure how old your son is, but mine just recently dropped his 3rd nap - he's a little over 7 months old now.<br><br>
He stays up more hours towards the end of the day now. We get up around 6am, then his first nap happens fairly quickly - around 7:30am until around 9am. Then another nap around noon - often 2 hours, sometimes 3. Then he goes to bed around 7PM.<br><br>
I went along with it, I figure as long as he still gets enough sleep overall it's all good - I trust him fully.<br><br>
Perhaps you could let him lead for a few days and see what happens? Meaning, watch and observe when he shows signs of being tired and go along with that. Perhaps he's ready to drop a nap, too, or his rhythm is changing (somewhat).
 

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LOL Duh, that would help wouldn't it? He will be 1 on August 6th.
 

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Maybe, manipulating is not the right word. I just know sometimes when he is really tired he cries and cries when I try to lay down with him. I am having a harrd time figuring out if he is too tired or not tired enough. He is also teething, which really makes it difficult to discern. He is the happiest baby, so when he cries I know something is up. I just don't know if his tears are from his teeth, being too tired, not tired, or a combination of both. What is the average age for babies to only take one nap a day?
 

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Yep I always found the morning naps shortened until they wouldn't nap and then they switched to one long pm nap (and my 2 yo ds still does 3 hour long pm naps. LOVE it!!) That seemed to be the case with most of my friends' kids too.
 

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My DD is 12.5 months, and I'm in the same spot. I really wanted to wait as along as possible to drop to one nap, didn't want to rush it... But after a week of DD being really hard to get to sleep for her 2nd nap, pushing that nap and her bedtime WAY later, as well as lots of other sleep changes indicating she's able to go for longer, deeper stretches now, I'm positive she's giving me the cues!<br><br>
I'm hoping to keep her awake for 4.5-5 hours tomorrow before her one nap of the day, and see how that works!
 

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Sleep needs are constantly changing. My first dd was taking two 20 minute naps at 12 months. It was frustrating, because I could see she was tired, but no matter WHAT I did, she would. not. nap. longer. I just gave in to the fact that that is how she is. She is active/alert and can't shut her brain off. My second dd is exactly the same. I will lay her down, drowsy and very tired, and the second she hits the mattress, she will start crawling. And crawling. And crawling. She will literally go on like this for 30-45 minutes. She can't stop herself and needs a lot of help shutting down. I try to help her as much as I can, but when I can't I lay her down in her pack and play (she crawls off the bed if I'm not right there) and put her noise machine on and shut off the lights. I just let her crawl around until she tires herself out and starts to fuss. Then I go back in and rub her back or pat her butt. All this to say, she needs a lot of time to settle down.<br><br>
Maybe there is alot going on for your little guy right now, as far as learning? He is not able to manipulate yet (although it's hard to remember that!) but he may just need some more help for the time being. Or it may be just a phase and in a week or so, you'll have your great napper back again! And remember that while transitioning from two naps down to one, it will take a few weeks. And there may be days he does need two naps again, or an earlier bed time, ect. Just try to go by his cues and not the clock or a set routine. It's hard when you are trying to plan your day, but it wont last forever.
 

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When my dd started doing that, I dropped her am nap. I had her stay cranky all morning for a week. Then she started napping from 1pm-4pm. It was awesome since I was pregnant at the time, I slept too on the days that I had to work that evening.
 

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Thanks everyone for all the great input. Yesterday Noah took one 2.5 hour nap and wnet to bed about 2 hours earlier. So nice for me and DH <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. He just went down a few mintues ago so we will see what happens today!
 
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