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I'm really starting to dread naptime with DD. Before I got pregnant, she would nurse down to sleep--oh how easy that was. Now that she is weaned <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> going to sleep for naps is much harder. SHe has never fallen asleep by herself, so I have always layed next to her. Sometimes it takes her minutes to fall asleep & other times it can take an hour or so. This isn't a problem--YET. But what about when the new baby comes in Oct? I don't want to wait until the baby arrives before I can get her to fall asleep on her own (if this is even possible).<br><br>
We do have a routine (reading books, rubbing her bears back) & I know that DD does best with falling asleep when I can get her down within 6 hrs of her waking in the am. So I adjust her nap according to the time she awakens (awake at 6:30 means a nap at 12:30). Again this is easy NOW but I am so concerned about when this baby comes.<br><br>
I started, although briefly, sitting on the bed & reading a book & having her lay beside me. Lately though she keeps asking "hold me, hold me". I cannot refuse this. I do hold her, but it doesn't make falling asleep easier. I know her concern is that I'm going to leave her. Last week I got super irritated & just walked out of the room to compose myself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: (3 minutes to be exact) well I guess she fears this now & I only did it once <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. CIO is out of the question, but I do need some gentle techniques to help her fall asleep.<br><br>
Maybe I'm making this into mountain when it's actually a mole hill. Any btdt advice? What about those of you expecting & you already have a toddler- are you concerned when the baby gets here? Thanks for letting me vent.
 

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Sorry to hear of your frustrations zanzansmommy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I can totally relate. My dd NEVER napped regularly as a baby. When she turned one is when we got into a good routine. By then I was 7 months pregnant. I decided that I would nap with her. So that meant rearranging my day and my mindset. Eventually I was able to sneak away from her and now it get up and leave when she's fallen asleep.<br><br>
Now with dd#2 they share that naptime together so I can get a little me time. On days she won't go down, I feel like it's the end of the world <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I've learned that staying calm is the best thing you can do. And on the most desperate of days, I give her the option of napping in her crib and plop her in there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> That won't last but two minutes and she's bawling her head off. She seems to get the message that I'm serious and falls asleep pretty easily, after I've removed her from the "cage" of course :LOL . (eventhough we co-sleep we still have the crib....I don't know why <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> )<br><br>
You also might try moving her nap time up and hour or so. We try 3-4 hours after waking. Don't afraid to be firm with her and you'll probably drive your self crazy repeating "It's naptime now, lie down and close your eyes."<br><br>
BTW - I don't nap w/ dd#2. I nurse her down and put her in the cradle. It's much easier than nursing her and wrangling a toddler practicing gymnastics on the bed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
sorry for the babbling....hope it gives you some piece of mind.
 

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Thanks Bella's Mum. There aretimes I wish I had a crib (very few though).<br><br>
Ctdoula -DD is 21 months old.
 

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I can relate to what you are experiencing. I have a 2yo dd, and one on the way 7-27. I have not weaned myl dd, but she doesnt fall asleep easily at nap times any more either even though I nurse her to sleep. I think my milk has changed? She takes over an hour to fall asleep lately, and I lay there thinking HOW WILL I DO THIS WITH NEW BABY??? But, I had to take a step back, and just say this is probably another phases that will pass. I am hoping that when the baby comes we will all lay in bed together, I don't know? Anyway, I think many of us co sleepers have been there. Good luck, I wish I had suggestions but I am struggling too!
 
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