ds is 5. he hates drawing attention to himself. so, he hates saying sorry and thanks because it makes people acknowledge him. i try to make him say sorry if required but don't force it. but i would really like him to say thanks for people doing stuff for him or giving him something etc. he has no problems saying it to me, dh or his little brother but everyone outside of the fam is a big issue. we do model it and up until now i've been thanking people on his behalf. now, at 5.5 though, i feel like it is expected of him and he should comply. help me with thinking about consequences when he refuses in a potentially embarrassing (for me) situation. taking away privileges? playdate/fun outing cancellation? what?