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Well, dd is 3.5 and for the past week she has not nursed once at night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> Before that she'd wake once every night to nurse, occasionally twice. I've never tried to limit her night nursings in any way. So, I think she's nightweaned. I'm sure she could have a bad night or a sick night where she needs it but I have a feeling she's really done with night nursings.<br><br>
So, I just wanted to let all of you mamas know they really do night wean on their own eventually! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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That gives me a bit of hope. I have about 18mths left. lol lol
 

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Really??!! Cool. Another year to go! LOL<br><br>
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:LOL<br><br>
Well, I'm sure it's different for every child. Hopefully some of the mamas who let their children self night wean will come along and share the "when" with us. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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How do you definite 'night weaned'? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Dd doesn't nurse <i>during</i> the night except for every once in a blue moon (okay, once a month or so), but she does still nurse right when she wakes up in the morning. To me, that's close enough to nightweaned, but. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
And I guess it was so gradual I never really thought about the when - sometime between 3 and 3.5 though, I guess.<br><br>
(Cherish the time, ladies! Dd doesn't even nurse every single day anymore, and that waking-up time is the only time she nurses. It's v. bittersweet!)
 

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9 more months for me, then!<br>
But last night ds slept from 10:30pm-5:30am for the first time in his life... wonder if that will happen again. Usually he wakes me up every 2-3 hours.<br><br>
Hope to hear on this thread from other moms whose dc's naturally nightweaned <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My DD recently nightweaned entirely on her own at 23 months. I had made a few very brief attempts in the past to nightwean her but they were just miserable for both of us so I gave it up. It had been months since I tried to limit her nighttime nursing in any way. We were transitioning her to her own mattress in our room in preparation for the new baby. She was really excited about it and after the first week stopped waking at night. After a month or so in her own little bed she started sleeping with us again but still sleeping through the night. Very occasionally she wakes up 30 minutes after she goes to sleep for the night and more rarely she'll wake in the early morning hours but otherwise she's sleeping a straight 12 hours. It can happen on its own! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My ds1 stopped nursing at night right around 3. Also, both my ds1 and ds2 stopped falling asleep at the breast on their own around 12-14 months (with the exception of teething, illness, or a rare other night). Again, they both did it on their own, right now ds2 is still just new at this and he nurses till almost asleep then rolls away from me and tosses and turns a bit before falling asleep. He seems to be cutting out his night feedings right now as well. They do all these things on their own time if you let them. It is such a rewarding experience because I feel really good that they did it when THEY were ready to, not when I was ready for them to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My son nightweaned around the same age <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
My daughter seems to have nightweaned just recently. She isn't even 2 1/2. But I think it's been more than a week since she's woken at night to nurse.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DD recently nightweaned entirely on her own at 23 months. I had made a few very brief attempts in the past to nightwean her but they were just miserable for both of us so I gave it up. It had been months since I tried to limit her nighttime nursing in any way. We were transitioning her to her own mattress in our room in preparation for the new baby. She was really excited about it and after the first week stopped waking at night. After a month or so in her own little bed she started sleeping with us again but still sleeping through the night. Very occasionally she wakes up 30 minutes after she goes to sleep for the night and more rarely she'll wake in the early morning hours but otherwise she's sleeping a straight 12 hours. It can happen on its own! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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his mattress is at the end of our bed. he thinks it's very cool! i sewed a fitted sheet with bright colors full of construction trucks! last night he lasted about 3 hours. tonight it's been about 2 so far.<br><br>
we are ttc to conceive so we wanted to start this process before we even get pg. don't want hima t all to get the feeling he's getting kicked out of our bed because of a new baby! it was weird to actually cuddle with dh last night! i had to ask him if was dreaming or if it really happened!<br><br>
anyway, thanks for this thread. it gives me a hope! (no that i don't enjoy our special time together, it's just been 19 1/2 months since i slept in bed bed with dh alone!
 

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You know, I was prompted to think about this the other day when a mom posted elsewhere, " I'm thinking of nightweaning my 7 month old, I mean he's going to hate it no matter when I do it so I might as well get it over with." I was going, hmmm. I've never thought of it as something one <i>has</i> to do. I kind of thought of it as a last ditch thing I'd try if I was under particular duress for some reason or had a specific reason otherwise, or he was showing me he was ready anyway... I've actually had mixed feelings the few times ds has slept from bedtime til morning since I wake engorged and worry I'll get a plugged duct! :LOL<br><br>
so thanks for putting into words what I was pondering. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Just thought I'd add another positive note here. My ds is 16 months, and he just started sleeping all night long on his own. He's on his own matress on the floor - one that's big enough that he can spin around and crawl around while sleeping and not bonk into anything. He was nursing every morning around 3 am, but lately he's stopped getting up to get milk. It's...wonderful!!!! I finally feel well rested. He still gets up every couple nights for milk, but the rest of the time he sleeps until 5:30 or 6!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well, dd is 3.5 and for the past week she has not nursed once at night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> Before that she'd wake once every night to nurse, occasionally twice. I've never tried to limit her night nursings in any way. So, I think she's nightweaned. I'm sure she could have a bad night or a sick night where she needs it but I have a feeling she's really done with night nursings.<br><br>
So, I just wanted to let all of you mamas know they really do night wean on their own eventually! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"></div>
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Wahhh, you mean he WON'T want to nurse forever? Darn, I might have toget a puppy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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So when did nightnursing begin to taper off, not stop but taper off? Ds is still waking 2 times a night on a very good restful night and several times on a restive night. He's 23 mos and the restive nights have just started up again.
 

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at 32 months, ds is starting to transition, I think.<br>
some nights he still nurses often, but other nights he might go 3-5 hours.<br>
last week he went 7 hours for the first time ever! woo hoo!
 

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Similar to the pp here. For the last few months I am just starting to see ds nursing less at night. He has always been "high-needs" at night - waking every 1-2 hours crying and nursing back to sleep is the easiest. I have attempting to night wean twice in the past, when I was at the end of my rope and couldn't take it anymore. But it was so traumatic for all of us so I didn't pursue it and quite a while ago decided I was just going to let it go (unless I got to the end of my rope again but that hasn't happened).<br><br>
He will actually sleep 5-6 hour stretches now a few nights a week so it's a start. He still wakes often in the early morning hours (4am). He's 30 months. I made the decision to cherish this time and not push anything - it's much easier on all of us.<br><br>
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In some ways this thread is inspiring ( <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Night CLW mommas) and in others... only depressing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
DS is 38 months and still frequently night nurses (I would consider going 5 hours to be nightweaned, btw, and he is no where near that). So, here's hoping that in the next fourish months he goes from all night buffet to going 5 hours! (I've actually decided to put off any night weaning decision until he is four, but man...).<br><br>
Looking forward to hearing more stories!
 

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She's 44 months. I'd say for the last year she's nursed once every night, occasionally twice. Before that since almost babyhood she nursed twice every night, occasionally three times. So, she just kind of went from nursing at night to not. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> I guess you can't really taper off from one though right? :LOL<br><br>
This girl is no where near day weaning though. She's got at least a couple more years to go. She's *all* about the "Mai Mai." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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My lil' guy nightweaned on his own at 2.5 years. I can't remember the progression; I just remember that after I got used to sleeping again, I had a REALLY hard time with sleep deprivation! :LOL Now he's 5 and just nurses at bedtime, although he's beginning to skip that nursing occasionally.
 

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Yikes, I have to admit that the thought of having to wait until 3 1/2 for natural nightweaning sounds a little, well, like an eternity! I am wondering if any of you have nightnursed during pregnancy. I felt I had to nightwean my eldest during pregnancy for my own sanity (uncomfortable sensations, woke me up completely, was being a mean zombie to dd during the day as a result of sleep deprivation). She was about 18 months old. My consolation was that I would not put any restrictions on her daytime nursing and I would nurse her to sleep at bedtime and first thing in the morning. She's now 32 months and still nurses a lot during the day, but she sometimes goes to sleep without nursing. I have to say there were many occassions when I was so thankful she was nightweaned, like during pregnancy when I was totally exhausted, or when the baby was first born and I didn't have to roll over from one dd to the other during the night.<br><br>
My youngest is 8 months old and, this is going to sound horrible, but I'm already looking forward to the day that she's nightweaned. She's just so disruptive; way worse than Sarah was at this age. With Sarah I would sorta half-open my eyes to discover she was latched on to me--I had no idea how much she nursed at night because she would just squirm over and latch on without ever waking me fully (at least until those pregnancy hormones kicked in...). Ashley, OTOH, wakes up crying (no quiet squirming as a precursor), then I still have to help her find my nipple, even at 8 months (Sarah was a boob expert by this age). I sometimes find myself thinking, "I'm only going to nurse her at night as long as she's helping me hold off my fertility. As soon as I get my cycles back, this has got to stop." O.k. I know that's a horrible thought, since she might only be a year or so (that's how old Sarah was when I got my fertility back). But then again, there's something to be said for getting a full night's sleep, if you kwim. I think there's a window of opportunity between around 15 and 20 months that nightweaning doesn't seem to be too much of a struggle. Sarah had a few rough nights of it but adjusted pretty easily. However, I think if you wait too much beyond that, I could see an adamant 2 or 3 year old being quite unyeilding in a demand to nurse. I can tell by Sarah's personality that if she was not nightweaned now, she would not take no for an answer.<br><br>
I do plan to have more kids, and although I'd like to space them a little farther out than my first two, I could see me being pregnant before Ashley's 3 1/2, and I know from previous experience that nightnursing + pregnant me = disaster. I think I'd rather know I didn't have to deal with that desperate feeling of being pregnant and sleep-deprived again.<br><br>
Ok so I guess on one hand I'm encouraged to know that nightweaning does eventually take place on it's own (I did suspect that was the case, anyhow, because I am a believer in natural weaning). But on the other hand, I don't know that I'm willing to wait that long. Is that just mean and selfish of me? I mean I truly am committed to daytime self-weaning, but when the sun goes down, well, it's just not as simple to think clearly when your sleep's being interrupted. Does that make any sense???
 
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