Okay I had a midwife with the first...almost two years ago. It was alot worse than I was prepared for....so I am thinking of doing drugs this time...anyone else? Is there any words of advice?
Originally Posted by Anglyn
I went all natural with #3 and it was horrible. I plowed through all the pain and expected that endorphine rush you get wihtout the drugs to kick in. It never did. I was left in shock, truly and just wanted them to take the baby away from me and leave me alone. I was just so glad it was over. I felt cheated. Where was the wonderful birth everyone else talks about? It took me months to bond with the baby and it was the only time I had ppd. Im not saying it was the fault of the natural birth but I truly cant do it again. Not wanting to go through that again and feeling guilty if I didnt was a main reason I started second guessing my choice to have a fourth. My easiest birth was my epidural by far, even with the "hole" in it. I didnt get it until an hour before birth anyway. And that last hour with my natural birth was the one where I was praying do die. The first day I felt so much better than I had after myhospital births, but then the second and third and fourth days, I ached all over, it felt like someone had beat me with a baseball bat all over my entire body. I realize this was from me tensing up so much. Maybe if I had had some type of hypnobirthing classes or something. Plus, there was no drugs and no shots or anything for baby, but other than that, my midwives intervened a lot, made me get out of the tub, which was nowhere near warm enough anyway, broke my water and made me lay on my side so they could reach better when I truly and instinctively wanted to birth in an upright position.