Explain to him that by calling her "good girl" or "naughty girl" or "bad girl" or whatever, that he is attacking her as a person, not the behavior. It's like calling someone "fat girl" or "skinny girl" or any number of things. She will live her life trying to seek approval from him because she wants to be a "good girl" in his eyes and unless she feels she is a good girl, she will assume she's not.<br><br>
Instead, he should let her know how wonderful she is and how loved she is no matter what. Address the bad behavior, but do not attach it to her character. Address the good behavior too, but do not attach that to her character either. What I mean is if she does something "good", then tell her what a great job she did or how nice it was, or whatever, instead of saying, "Good girl!" Because what happens when she doesn't do that thing again? Then she's a bad girl? Adults know differently, but little children do not understand the difference.<br><br>
This may not be the simplist terms... but maybe it can help some! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">