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I need some help mamas! I watch an 18 month old and his 4 year old brother every day and I'm about to go crazy. They fight over EVERYTHING. I'm sure this is normal but can anyone recommend a book that would help me teach them how to just love on each other and play nicely together instead of fight and yell about everything? I'm getting so frustrated of breaking up fights every day.<br><br>
I have 10m old twins myself and haven't had to deal with this yet.<br><br>
Thanks!!
 

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sorry, I'm not laughing at you. It's just the laughter of a broken-down mama who went though this and then decided (duh) after they were older to do it all over again. So, here I am on my second pair of boys spaced 2.5yrs apart and there is really no trick to making them stop fight, imo. Some helpful books would be<br>
Siblings Without Rivalry and Playful Parenting. Some tips are:<br><br>
keep them in separate spaces, stay outdoors as much as possible, keep toys out that are easy to share or (blocks, playdough for instance, as opposed to the one beloved toy lawnmower - when you can have duplicates it's better - two blue balls of dough, two round cookie cutters), and this might not be popular but imo if no one is getting injured and the baby isn't being victimized, you can let them be and see if they resolve things without your interference. It might take a few times before the learn to do that without you running right in.<br><br>
I think it's futile, though, to work on generating compassion and maturity they simply don't have developmentally.
 

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Thanks for the recommendations and the advice. Even if it was to pretty much wait it out!! lol.....<br><br>
It helps to know that it's not just me doing something wrong but that it's pretty much how siblings are in general.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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