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Hey mamas! How many of you are single student mamas? I have a 2yo DS full-time...his bio dad lives 1,600 miles away and only sees him 3-4 times a year so I have him 100% of the time. I have been a FT nanny until recently so that I could be with him at all times. I have also been trying to rebuild a photography business on the side (I used to shoot freelance years ago) but that takes a lot of time to build up and is not always consistent. I have recently decided to go back to school to finish my degree. I have already been admitted back into school now I just have to get the financial aid I need to do it. My school has a really great scholarship program for single parents who have not yet completed a bachelors degree...it would pay for all of my tuition, fees, books and a stipend for my entire degree. I don't want to get my hopes up too much but the advisors seem to be really positive about me being able to get this scholarship. I have never written an essay for a scholarship before! ACK!<br><br>
So how do you single mamas do this? Do you go FT or PT? Do you live on your own or with family? Do you have other government assistance? How do you manage your time?<br><br>
I need all the encouragement I can get!!! This is exciting but yet scary! Oh...and I am pretty sure I want to go for Graphic Design since it would be a nice compliment to my photography and it seems to have endless possibilities in terms of career paths and creativity.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Well, not anymore, but I was a few years ago! Honestly, school was perfect as far as schedules go. I could basically schedule my classes around when my dd was at preschool and study after she went to sleep. It was much less hectic than having to be somewhere 40 hours a week. It could get very stressful around exam time though. I found that professors and fellow students were very gracious about my situation. Sometimes I couldn't come to class if dd was sick or something, and my professors always excused it. It can be a bit lonely, because mostly everyone is in a different situation. I was very proud of myself though and still am. I think you're doing a great thing, and I hope you get that scholarship. Otherwise, you can take out loans. Good luck to you!
 

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I'm not single anymore, either, but I've been there. I agree with Papaya - I really liked school as a single mom. It was intense, but gave me a real sense of pride.<br><br>
I always went part-time and I did online classes towards the end of my single-dom. I lived on my own and worked full time, but wahm'd for part of it after DS2 was born. There are tons of grant programs out there and as a single mom, you should qualify for a lot of aid. Plus, there are always student loans to cover extra expenses.<br><br>
You can do it, MAMA!!
 

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Hi there,<br><br>
I am a single mama w/ a 21-month-old and I'm in grad school full-time (social work).<br><br>
you can totally do it, and it can be fun too!<br><br>
Okay, it's crazy at times and sometimes I'm so sleep-deprived I say really dumb things in class...but it's still worth it. And yeah, take all the financial aid you can get for your undergrad. There are some pretty good grants/scholarships out there and that will make things really affordable.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Whimsy
 

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Hi, I'm a single student mama with a 21 month old (just like pp!). I'm getting my Bachelor of Commerce degree. I get a daycare subsidy for ds and he goes to daycare 4 days/week. My ex has zero contact with us, but I live with my sister and she's a great support with ds.<br><br>
Some tips:<br>
-don't count on getting work done while dc is around. It might work for you, but it might not either. I tried to read 5 pages of a text yesterday and had ds smooshing my face towards him to say "mama? What you doin'? What you doin', mama?"<br>
-spend the time before you start getting super organized. Clean everything, make an easy to handle schedule.<br>
-try to strike a balance. Sure, I'd like to have ds with me every day but in exchange, I would be getting zero sleep to do schoolwork all night. By having ds in daycare 4 days, I can get all my work done and just BE with him when he's home.<br><br>
You can totally do this! And you SHOULD! Getting this done means a higher standard of living for the rest of your LIVES!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">: I'm a student-mom too...
 
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