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<p>So, my partner and I are having another boy. We knew the name of our first-born before he was conceived but we're a little stumped on this one. Our stipulations are that it's gender neutral (though our first son's name is often perceived as slightly feminine,) and uncommon/unique but not so unique that we have to spell, over-annunciate, or explain it for the rest of his life.</p>
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<p>Any ideas? We like Devon but feel it's too common. I love Hazel but DP thinks it's too feminine (even though the name voyager shows a good number of boys in the early part of the last century who were named Hazel). </p>
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<p>Our neighbors just named their daughter Carlin, which sounds very gender neutral to me. In fact, I just found it listed in both halves of the baby name book.</p>
 

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<p>what about Quinn? or Keir? I think Jesse is gn also & love it.</p>
 

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<p>Thanks for the ideas! Carlin is one I have not come across. Keir is new to me too. Quinn is becoming more popular. I know several born this year in my own network. And my partner loves Jesse but alas, we associate it with a former acquaintance whom we don't want to associate with our kids.</p>
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<p>Keep 'em coming!</p>
 

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<p>Kendall</p>
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<p>Riley</p>
 

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<p>Shiloh</p>
<p>Kerry</p>
<p>Jordan</p>
<p>Erin/Aaron</p>
<p>Rowan</p>
<p>Ronan</p>
<p>Harper</p>
<p>Soleil</p>
<p>River</p>
<p>Skye/Skylar</p>
<p>Terrin</p>
<p>Seren (Welsh for 'star' ... love this one)</p>
<p>Qouia/Seqouia</p>
<p>Cedar</p>
<p>Tennyson</p>
<p>Billy/Billie</p>
<p>Blue</p>
<p>Mischa</p>
<p>Sascha</p>
<p>Luka</p>
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<p>Those are off the top of my head ... no more time to think as dinner's ready to come out of the oven.  Can you tell this is a topic close to my heart?</p>
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<p>Congrats on your baby!</p>
 

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<p>Lesley</p>
<p>Gabriel</p>
<p>Christian</p>
<p>Cameron</p>
<p>Riley (that's pretty popular around here though)</p>
<p>Kendall</p>
<p>Peyton (another popular one, course I live in Colts country so...)</p>
<p>Dakota</p>
 

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<p>Wow. Thanks, everyone! Lots to think about. :)</p>
 

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<p>We have 3 girls (or will soon) and they all have gender neutral names:</p>
<p>Riley, Teagan and Shae. They have feminine MNs so people know they are all girls.</p>
<p>I think you got lots of good suggestions! GL!</p>
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<p>I haven't thought about names in a long time.  Also the name you pick while pg may not be the name the kid ends up getting.  We had names for all our kids pre-birth and ended up not using them!  (Although with the twins we gave baby b's name to baby a and baby b was nameless for more than a month!)</p>
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<p>My kids are Logan, Avery, Meryl and Finley.  All sound gender neutral but Meryl has the girls spelling.</p>
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<p>We also strive for gender neutral names! We thought Vida was pretty gender-neutral though, but everyone assumes Vida is female!</p>
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<p>Anyway, some of the other names on our list that I can remember off-hand are Kale, River, Roux, Phoenix, Piper, London, Shiva, Parker, Briar and Dené.</p>
 

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<p>Can you tell us your older child's name to get an idea of your taste?</p>
 

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<div>Andrea</div>
<div>Arden</div>
<div>Ashley</div>
<div>Bailey</div>
<div>Blaire</div>
<div>Kelsey</div>
<div>Lane</div>
<div>Noel</div>
<div>René</div>
<div>Rory</div>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>erthe_mama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285957/need-a-good-gender-neutral-name#post_16127396"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>We also strive for gender neutral names! We thought Vida was pretty gender-neutral though, but everyone assumes <strong>Vida is female</strong>!</p>
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<p>Anyway, some of the other names on our list that I can remember off-hand are Kale, River, Roux, Phoenix, Piper, London, Shiva, Parker, Briar and Dené.</p>
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<br><br><p> I seem to remember from my spanish class in high school (yeah, 15+ years ago) that many words in the spanish language have a gender association.  And that association is demonstrated by the ending of the word- A is feminine and O is masculine.  So, chica, gata, tia are all female, chico, gato, tio are all male.  This applies to names too-Angelo or Roberto are male, Angela and Roberta are female.  I think people sometimes tend to make the same assocation with American names too, that names that end in A tend to be considered  female names. </p>
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<p>Disclaimer-as I said, I took Spanish 15 years ago.  I am by no means fluent in Spanish and may not be remembering clearly.  So feel free to correct me if I am wrong!:D</p>
 

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<p>That's a good point, actually. lol</p>
 

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<p>Thanks, everyone. Our first son's name is Avie. We found it when we happened upon a plaque at Dollywood talking about Dolly's mother, Avie Lee. We both loved it instantly. With this little guy, nothing we've found so far has wowed us. I like a lot of the names above but still feel many of them are becoming so common. Plus, being queer and having a partner who is gender-queer and works with a lot of transfolks, we know a lot of people who've chosen GN names--good ones too!--but we don't want to name him after any of these people. </p>
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<p>As for whether or not names ending in -a are can be viewed as masculine: Joshua, Ira, Dakota, Ezra, Luka, and Mica are all ones that are rarely questioned.</p>
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<p>We have a very large, old cemetery down the street from us. When it gets a bit warmer, we plan on taking a walk to see if we what we can find there. That may seem morbid but I think cemeteries are sacred places honoring the cycle of life and those who cycled through before us. </p>
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<p>Anyway, thanks again for all your responses!  </p>
 
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