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Hi, boy, i hardly know where to begin, so i will just put the main points up and if anyone has any ?'s they can ask...<br><br>
My husband and I (we have been together 13 yrs. married 7) are getting a divorce, i have homeschooled my children (ages 5 and 7) and been a stay at home mother most of those years. I am moving to california, and trying to figure out joint custody (we now live in alaska). My husband is upset at the idea of my moving to california (understandably) and i have now suggested to him that he possibly get the kids first, which would mean my moving down w/o them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> for the next sixish months (i would see them in between now and then, but would live in cali) then they would move down w/me. They are going to be enrolled in school here after christmas break. I cannot afford to live in alaska as a single parent, but can figure it out down there where housing is much cheaper, and so is food. i know w/my moving that they will have to get used to being w/o me for months, because altho they will be enrolled this year in school here in alaska, next year they will be enrolled in cali and they will spend the next summer w/thier dad, and i will be without them for three months...<br><br>
LONG story shorter, has anyone out there been w/o thier kids for periods of time? how old were they? how did they do? is it insane or possible? ANY advice is welcome, i am at a loss here as what to do....sorry if this doesn't make much sense, i am more stressed then i have ever been in my life. but also feeling the most hopeful....to grow and have a better life (i am the one pushing for the divorce, not dh)<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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You would really go 6 months only seeing your kids, who are only 5 & 7, every now and then? To be honest, I don't see a judge agreeing to 6 months with you and 6 months with him. And since he is protesting the move, you may have to decide between your kids and the move. Because you could end up the NCP with only part of the school holidays and most of the summer to see your kids.<br><br>
I just can't fathom going from being a SAHM to only seeing your kids every few months. And it would be very hard on them.
 

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No, sorry, misinformation, i would end up not seeing them for three months most likely,(and i do realize i did write six), which would be the same amount of time i will end up being w/o them after this year when they visit their father for summers. We are filing for a dissolution and seeing a mediator, and it is my understanding (although this is all brand new to me and i could certainly be wrong) that if we are agreeing on the terms of our divorce the judge will agree w/what we agree with. (did that make sense?). He is no longer protesting the move, he mainly wanted to be sure that he would get to see them an adequate amount of time, and that while we were down there we would truly be in contact (and not flake out on their communication, the kids' and his). This is the only time i would be w/o seeing them for a few months, well every summer i guess, so once a year.
 
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