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Hi folks,

I'm the mom that Aubrie was talking about with a baby requiring supplemental milk. He's just over 6 weeks now, and I've managed to obtain donor milk in addition to what I can give him.

I guess I'm looking for support, as well and suggestions. I feel like I've tried it all....nursing every hour, nursing followed by pumping, just pumping, donperidone plus goats rue plus blessed thistle plus fenugreek. I've attended LLL meetings.

I've been working with two lactation consultants - one at the birth center where I had my little boy, and the other being my MIL, and both seem to say that I have the characteristics of low milk supply - asymmetrical breats, small, and wide apart.

I'm trying to stay positive, but there are times that I simply feel like a failure. This is the one thing that a mother should be able to do for her baby, and I sometimes feel like I've already failed as a mom.

But, I'm trying so hard to find donor breast milk. I know how great breastmilk is, and end up in tears each time I think about having to use formula. Deep down I know I'm being the best mother I can, but it still breaks my heart.

So, to get to my question...how have any of you found donors? My friend is doing all she can. I've found two other leads....one we've gotten milk from, and the other are playing phone tag.

**We are about to run out of donor milk, and I don't know what to do!!

I've check with my midwife, pediatrician, lactation consultant, and web sites about zoloft....one of the donors is taking that. Another lead is taking Allegra. All my resources say that it's ok....any transfer rate in breastmilk is very minimal, and my baby wouldn't be getting the amount that theirs are, since it's not his only source.

Do the benefits of breast milk outweigh risks? Thoughts? I'm leaning towards yes, but would like to put the question out there.

Thanks for letting me vent....any help would be appreciated!!!!

p.s. Turboclaudia - I'd love to chat with you - how do we share contact info?
 

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Here is a GREAT site...

Milkshare.com

Go to Liquid Gold and then Low milk supply. I am co-owner of the group and we have 2 conultants that can help you! Please check it out, and tell us a little about yourself, and we can hopefully help you!
 

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pmed you.

honestly, my most reliable donor and the one who gave us milk for the longest period of time was a local mama who was from the due date club here at mdc and became a good friend. the other donors i found were through a doula friend but only pumped for us for a short time (a month or two). another donor i connected to through another doula friend who was working with her postpartum and this mama had oversupply issues. just as i was about to begin using her milk, her child came down with hand, foot & mouth disease, so it was not feasible for me to expose our son to it via her breastmilk. we never reconnected after her child got well.

is there a local peer breastfeeding support group in your area? that might be a temporary source. LLL has a pretty strict policy on not recommending milk sharing, but if you mentioned in your introduction at a meeting that you are currently in the process of looking for milk donors after researching all your options and deciding that is your best choice, you might have a mama or two approach you privately or they might know someone who would be willing to work with you. the milkshare site is another great resource, although i have not personally used it (yet...
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sending you lots of
and peace...

~claudia
 
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