[so confused!]

Hi,<br><br>
I have posted a few threads here and I would like to thank all the ladies that replied.<br><br>
I have reached a point in my life where all I want is a baby.......I know its how many of you feel and so many of you have been ttc for longer.......but everything in my life seems to be going wrong and I know a baby will make everything alright.<br><br>
I started the thread "when should I BD?" but later I realized that I had miscalculated my cycle length,I was counting the first day of the next cycle too. Which means AF before BCP was 25-27 days, not 26-28.<br><br>
After my m/c in June of last year I got on BCP after a few months and was only on it for 7 months. I stopped on March 20th,got my withdrawal bleed on 23rd and then got real AF after 27 days,19th April. Does that mean I O'ed on CD14 before real AF? And since it came on time does that mean my body is back to normal?<br><br>
Now I am on my first real cycle after bcp,CD13 and I dont have EWCM but its more watery and my cervix feels quite high and soft.Shouldnt I have EWCM by now......coz last month just after I stopped the pill I noticed EWCM from CD11 onward. Can the first month be normal and the second off?<br><br>
Till now we BD'ed CD9,11 and 12 (yesterday) and will tomorrow too,CD14.<br><br>
Thank you so much for letting me vent and for reading.........sorry its sooo long!!

 

[MyZymurgy]

I had some EWCM my first month off the pill, and then nothing for 3 months, and then last month I had a small amount of EWCM. I think it can take a long time for the body to get used to being off the pill. I am afraid there isn't anything you can do to rush the process.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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.......but everything in my life seems to be going wrong and I know a baby will make everything alright.<br></div>
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I am afraid you are setting yourself up for frustration or dissapointment if you really believe this. Having a baby won't solve all of life's problems. Having a baby can actually ADD TO life's problems! Of course, a baby will give you a lot of positives things too (someone to love, care for, tender moments, etc.etc.) but a child will not solve your problems and your should not expect him or her to do so.<br><br>
I hope this happens for you quickly... but all you can do is BD as often as possible and hope for the best. If you aren't pg in a year (or 6 months if you are 35+), talk to your doctor about fertility tests. Until them... get back in the bedroom! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Take care!!

 

[DoulaLMT]

It took me 5 months after coming off BCPs to get a regular pattern of cervical fluid for me. Also, I know a lot of women haver shorter luteal phases after coming off BCPs (I did)....do you check your temps? If you are ovulating, you may be O'ing later than CD 13-14 if your luteal phase is short.

 

[smokeylo]

Vitex and Evening Primrose Oil helped me increase my CM when I was coming off the pill. Good luck to you.<br><br>
Like the PP said, expecting a baby to resolve problems in your life isn't the best approach to becoming a parent. If anything, expect babies to complicate and enhance existing stressors and conflicts. I know exactly how you feel... two years ago my life seemed to be in shambles and I was desperate to have a baby. I got so mad at my husband for not wanting it when I did. I got so mad at him for saying that my reasons for wanting a baby weren't right! In the end I agreed to delay for a year, and I am so happy that I did. I have been in therapy. I quit drinking. We both have better jobs and future plans. We're so happy and relaxed now. NOW is the time to bring a child into our life... not out of desperation or the hopes that an infant might fix something, but because we want to meet that person, and we want to transform our family.

 

[Sunshine4004]

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Same with me. DH and I had initially planned to start TTC in January 2006. November and December 2005, we were having some issues that needed resolved. We worked through these and things have been better since. In fact our marriage is probably the best it has ever been. Now we are going to TTC starting this cycle and I am extremely glad we waited.