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I finally had to come here and post b/c no one IRL "gets it". I am almost 39 weeks and have been focusing on a HBA2C since before I conceived this wee one. I have done EVERYTHING in my power/knowledge to support this VBAC!<br><br>
There have been other threads about an anterior placenta, which I have. I did not know until recently that can have an affect on baby being posterior, why my babe is. So, of course now I'm doing my pelvic tilts and not reclining, etc. I've had work done on my incision scar by a chiro and have been taking a scar and adhesion homeopathic, drinking my RRL everyday, visualizing more than anyone could, etc.<br><br>
We decided to get back up care b/c in AZ it is illegal to have a homebirth midwife for a hombirth. I went in last week and the midwife was very supportive, but of course wanted to do things I have not wanted this entire pregnancy. She wants a sonogram to determine the where the placenta is lying b/c if it's on the scar, it can "cause me and the baby to bleed out!". Fantastic. When the front desk girl said this, I got pissed off! and let her know, too! So, the sono is scheduled for Tuesday and an appt. w/the doctor on Friday to go over my "incision report" from previous c/s. While all this is great and dandy to have back up care in case I have to go to hospital, it is taking an emotional toll on me. As many of you mamas know at 39 weeks you are tired, emotional, hormonal and ready for baby to come. I deserve to stay strong, but need some help staying clear! I don't need to be worrying about bleeding out with a posterior baby, but instead focus on the peaceful easy VBAC I've been visualizing!<br><br>
If you have any thoughts, advice, anything, please share!<br><br>
Thanks,<br>
J
 

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A good midwife can hear with a doppler where your placenta is and if you haven't experienced any bleeding in your pregnancy, we can pretty much assume you don't have placenta praevia. If you don't plan on involving these fearful people in your birth, maybe don't involve them in your pregnancy? Go within, talk to your baby, talk to the part of you that <b>knows</b> how to birth and you will know if there's actually a problem of some kind. In the event of an emergency, you would just go to the hospital like you would for any other emergency. Birth is no different in that respect. Sounds to me like they'd all like to manipulate you into another c/s for their own comfort.<br><br>
OP, OA, whatever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Given <b>time</b>, babies are just born. Babies want to be born, and they're damn good at it so long as they're undrugged and mama is moving about as she needs. You've worked really hard and so long as you can stay away from people with fear, you sound like a normal birthing mama to me. It doesn't matter how many surgeries we have, this birth is still just a birth. You're made to do it!
 

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Thanks! I decided after talking w/dh to cancel my sono and the appt. with the doc to go over my "incision report". I've "established care" or at least a file and they have all my records, so if I had to go in then they'd have me down. I have worked too damn hard to let other ppl influence my thoughts now! I became refocused yesterday...visualizing, praying, talking to my baby, etc. I started feeling some type of BH contractions last night...felt it in my low back/sacrum too. I know this baby will be in my arms soon and we will have a wonderful, peaceful home birth...we deserve it! I saw you post on the other thread that you had a UBAC and didn't know where your placenta was. I loved that! I have known this whole pregnancy that baby and I are healthy and all is good. Thank you for reminding me!
 

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Canceling is much easier. You don't have to talk to anyone but the front desk for that. Just tell them you need to call back to reschedule if they pressure you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
It sucks dealing with office crap, especially when you know you have other plans. My issues were minor compared to yours, but I was also getting shadow care due to the issues with midwives and VBAC in my state. I was politely declining vaginal exams before labor. So every week I would go in, see a different nurse who would practically balk at the idea of me not following protocol. The appointment that was my last just happened to have the nurse who was the worst. "The doctors recommend it", she said. I told her it's not necessary unless something is wrong. She mumbled, "Well, you won't know if something is wrong if you don't check...." I wanted to smack her and say it was my choice, but I just nicely told her that the doctors all knew I was not having any VEs before labor. I conveniently "forgot" to go to any more appointments.
 

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I want to offer some support. I know how tempting it is to start thinking negative thoughts. It may not be your doing, but that of those around you. We have almost all been there! Don't lose track on your positive thinking. I had a lot of negative vibes towards the end of my pregnancy (especially when I went almost 2 weeks overdue). I found the best thing I could do for myself was while I was laying in bed, talk to my baby in my head. It was just me and my unborn child. I would talk to her and tell her how perfect the birth was going to go and that I was ready for her to come into this world as healthy as can be. That time was very peaceful for me.
 

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Hi there,<br><br>
I had an anterior placenta with the added bonus of back labour (due to a posterior baby) but in the end, it all turned out absolutely fine. Not once did anyone suggest a scan to check the placenta or that I would "bleed out", so I think your midwife might be overreacting a bit. You're right - this kind of worry and stress is the last thing you need right now!<br><br>
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about an anterior placenta and a VBAC at all. I was never aware of any risks in this situation and it certainly didn't affect my birth at all. I didn't even have Syntometrine to shrink the uterus back after the birth (which is routinely given in hospital "just in case" the mother has a heavy bleed), and I had no problems with excess bleeding.<br><br>
You can do it! Focus on yourself and trust in your body. I hope you have the peaceful, uneventful birth you want and deserve. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thank you for your responses and support! I cancelled the sonogram! That felt sooooo good! I am back in control and can not wait to birth this baby! My family kinda freaked. I told them it wasn't up for discussion, then my dh explained (w/o me around b/c i'll get emotional) why we are making the choices we are. he was awesome! I'm not worried about my placenta at all and shouldn't have let anyone worry me even for a second! Fast lesson learned and moving on! Thanks again!
 
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