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Hi mamas. I'm just looking for a supportive ear and any good suggestions if you have them. I'm having a very difficult time being patient with ds2 (18 months). He's always had a high need for physical closeness and attention....but sheesh! some days I just want to scream, "Could you PLEASE let me get something done!!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: His favorite indoor activity is making me sit on the couch so that he can sit on my lap, suck his thumb, and touch my hair. He wants to do this all. The. Time. If I try to clean house, cook, etc. he throws a fit. I've tried explaining that I have things to do and that he can help me. It works for maybe 2 minutes. I wear him in the ergo sometimes, but he's getting heavier and doing things like scrubbing the tub or bending over to pick up toys is out of the question.<br><br>
My home always looks like a tornado went through it. We have a 3 ft. tall pile of laundry in the basement. I'm just tired. Tired of food thrown all over the floor, tired of the simplest tasks taking three times as long because ds2 is holding on to my leg and whining, oh...and I'm just TIRED. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He still wakes sometimes 3-4 times per night to nurse! I'm planning on night weaning using Gordon's method of weaning within the family bed next week in hopes that if I get more sleep I'll have more patience during the day. Also, I'm hoping it will help me get through the every 90 minute (or less) nursing sessions during the day.<br><br>
If you have any wisdom to share with me I'd love to hear it. My oldest two were much more independent at this age and I'm really having a tough time dealing with ds2. Thanks!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> and you're not alone! I'm going through the same thing with my 17 month old down the the hair holding (aka pulling)! I recently night weaned until 4-5 am and then I'll nurse her whenever she asks till morning and that helped SOOO much! I could cope with so much more during the day. Plus everyone on these boards recommended reading Raising Your Spirited Child and that helped as well - just knowing that there were other people out there dealing with the same thing. I've always wanted to know when the crazy clingyness will end however - seriously! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Oh - and during the day I work like a mad women during her napping time to get house work done so I can sit with her reading while she twirls my hair the rest of the her waking hours :)
 

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My dd isn't particularly high needs (although some days, like today, it sure as heck feels like it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">, and has always been extremely independent. So it was quite a shock to me a few months ago when she was whiny and clingy and crying and wanting me to hold her ALL THE TIME! I thought I was going to go out of my mind, and no the Ergo was not good enough, I had to hold her or do a hip carry with the Maya, which just about destroyed my back.<br><br>
The good news? It stopped after a few weeks. Also, all of my friends with kids around the same age were going through it too. It definitely seems to be a developmental thing with kids around 16-18 months (I can't remember exactly when it happened, but it was around then). Hang in there, and hopefully he'll be back to his "normal" HNs self soon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am right there with you. Not sure I have much advice, but wanted to let you know we are going through the same thing. Nobody told me that 14-18 (it will get better after 18 months, right?!) is HARD. I am just now realizing, too, that I have a high-needs/strong-willed/sensitive/spirited toddler. I'm not big on labels or comparing kids, but I'm starting to see that DD is just....MORE.<br><br>
Argh. can't type, as she's dragging me away from the computer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. Will try more later...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am sitting here wanting to cry myself right now.<br><br>
My only plan right now is to set DD next to me in the kitchen so she can make a mess on only one counter while I make dinner (and have a glass of wine while I cook). Hey, the recipe calls for wine, what can I do? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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Hi, also just writing to sympathize with you. I swear if nervous breakdowns were real I would have one. My 20 month old DS is high needs too. Some days I'm able to put it all in perspective and just relax and let the house get trashed, but today wasn't one of them. I wanted to clean sooo bad. I pick up one thing, he takes out 3 more. You know how that goes I'm sure. When DH got home I was completely freaking out. I made him take me for a drive. I needed to get out of my messy house, and I was too frazzled to drive. Thank God for him! Then I feel guilty for being so emotional. DH says, "it's ok sweetie, I know its just your hormones." At least I can laugh at that. I personally just can't wait til all the teeth are in!<br><br>
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I was losing my patience way too much the last few months. ... a lot of it was centered around dd's constant bf-ing (in addition to getting into, on, or under EVERYTHING she can reach). About a week ago I decided to limit breastfeeding to the rocking chair in my room. I still nurse her whenever she wants, but only in our special chair. (I'll have to come up with alternative for when we're out, but since we're in the middle of a only one car and the kids have colds stint it hasn't been an issue.)<br><br>
That one change has made a huge difference in our dynamic. I'm feeling less touched out, and enjoy our cuddles when we are not in the chair since they are less goal oriented on her part. I also enjoy BFing her again, and think that I'll probably BF longer now that nursing is not driving me batty.<br><br>
HTH
 

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Forgot to mention... when the going gets really rough we either go for a walk or the kids take a bath. It calms & redirects all three of us.
 
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