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My 18 month old dd takes a bath or shower every evening and she gets SO upset whenever it's time to get out. I've tried letting her stay in and play as long as she wants (hoping that she'll eventually get bored or cold)-- but she has some serious bath stamina and however long she stays in, it seems like I'm just bringing her world down in pieces when it's time to get out.<br><br>
This is how it goes: Usually I get out of the shower first and let her continue to play in the tub while I get ready for bed-- telling her "when I finish combing my hair, then it will be time for you to get out and get dried off"-- this gives her maybe 10 minutes, with me regularly reminding her that it's almost time (now I'm putting my lotion on, next I'm going to comb my hair, and then it will be time for you to get out..." Invariably, she points at the spigot and signs "more" repeatedly, with her sweet little face looking increasingly desperate, until she dissolves into crying/screaming. I'm always very gentle and calm and tell her how frustrating it must be, that I know she wants to keep playing, but it's time to get out. It's still quite awful, by our standards. It usually doesn't last for too long (maybe 5 seconds of sitting on the bathmat in despair before she reaches up for me to pick her up so she can vent on my shoulder) but it's hard for both of us and I wish I could think of some way to make it easier-- I hate feeling like I'm breaking her little heart every single day!<br><br>
I've just gotten her a little swimming pool, hoping that maybe if she has lots of opportunity to splash and play during the day, that maybe the bath ending won't be such a big deal. Any other ideas? It's not really dangerous or anything for her to stay the bath- so my gut tells me to just wait her out and hope that more play in the pool will do the trick-- but sometimes I just really want to do something else and don't feel like her desire to stay in the tub is should always dictate how the rest of the family (me and dh) spends our evening. At the same time, I really hate to see her so sad over something that I can easily fix. Suggestions?
 

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My ds sometimes does this as well. Recently we've said ok I'm letting the water out down the drain, you can play with your bath toys untill all the water goes down then you come out. This has worked. My ds is a bit older thatn your dc but it might be worth a try. HTH
 

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We have a similar routine (shower together and then she plays in the bath while I get ready) except we do it in the morning. She's just like your dd and doesn't want to get out most of the time. So, I always tempt her with whatever it is we are doing that day. But, that doesn't really help you much!<br><br>
Are there any toys or books that she really enjoys so you could tempt her with that or maybe a late night snack?<br><br>
good luck!
 

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I hear ya! What I have learnerd to do is pull the plug and let all the water out... or DD actually does it when I say "pull the plug"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> she likes to! and we avoid her freaking out other wise she'd stay in forever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> this way she know's it is time to get out..<br><br>
Best of luck~
 

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try the bath another time of day so she can stay in as long as she likes? have a book or magazine in the bathroom with you to read? my friend's 5 year old will stay in the tub for 90 mins, the water is freezing, but he doesn't want to get out.
 

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Swap ya! My 2.5 yo won't get IN the tub.... our tantrum starts there!
 

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whether it's getting out of the bath or leaving the park, I try to give DS something to look forward to. With the bath i say, it's time to get out and pick out jammies and have a story and milk with daddy. sometimes I need to repeat this a few times, but at some point it clicks and he says "dada?" and gets out. would this work with your DC?<br><br>
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for those who won't get in the tub... bubbles worked for us.
 

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We have dd help put her toys away, and she stays in the tub until the water goes down the drain.<br><br>
I'd say try to entice her with something that she'll really like to do--would she want to pick out her clothes? a book to read? I'm going to guess that she not only wants to continue playing, but also feels like she has no control over the situation. Maybe she won't take the end of bathtime so hard if she knows that she can choose something fun/enjoyable to do after.
 
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