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DS (almost 9mo) usually wakes up after one sleep cycle of his naps, at around 45 minutes. I can get him back to sleep quite easily with some rocking, but as soon as I put him back down, he's wide awake. Before, I used to put him into his swing for the second half of his naps and he'd manage to stay asleep for another sleep cycle. Unfortunately, our swing died (and he's getting close to the weight limit anyways), so I've been trying to do his whole nap on the bed. But I'm not having any luck at putting him back down. It sucks, because I know he's still tired (he goes back to sleep in just minutes once I start rocking him), but his naps have become less than an hour lately. He's become much more cranky, and I feel bad that I can't help him have longer naps. I've tried laying down to nurse him when he wakes up, or just laying with him, but he doesn't fall back to sleep once I've put him down.<br><br>
Any suggestions for extending his naps - either to avoid him waking up after the first sleep cycle, or ways I can help him stay asleep once I put him down the second time?
 

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What we do only works sometimes, but here it is. DS sleeps right beside my pillow, as it seems one of the reasons he wakes is because he's looking for me. (He's tried to nurse on the pillow a couple of times. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) We play music or talk radio in another room while he's sleeping. The dryer used to help, but it doesn't seem to anymore.<br><br>
Just some ideas, HTH!
 

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Both mine are like that. I'm hoping James outgrows it, because Thomas did. It seemed forever at the time, but I remember eventually he started sleeping 90 minutes in the morning. Then the afternoon nap lengthened a couple months later. He was around your son's age when he started overcoming the 45 minute cycle, so I hope the same happens for you soon!
 

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The thing that helped us was keeping our Alexander up later. I was skeptical since it was only keeping him up until noon instead of 11am, but it worked. Suddenly he'd sleep 2-3 hours then and not try to nap again at 5-6pm (which, if he did, he was staying up till after 10pm at night). Then I just stayed with him and soothed him back to sleep as soon as he started to stir until he got used to sleeping a longer nap at that time. It wasn't long before he just slept through himself.
 

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For us at that age, the only way dd would nap longer is if she was ON me the whole time. And even that was hit and miss. We had a long run around that age where she didn't nap at all.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
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before the next cycle is over, could you try and put your hand on his back/tummy to help him move into the next phase? this worked for one of my girls, but I had to catch her at 30minutes and stay next to her for 15minutes or so.
 

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Yup!<br><br>
We still have to soothe DS back to sleep after an hour or so, but that's because they're doing really loud construction on our building so he wakes up when he moves into the light-sleep part of the cycle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
MIL babysits most of the time, and she is too tenderhearted to keep him up longer than he wants to be, which always annoys me because if he naps early in the day, he wants to nap again at 5 or so, and of course she lets him, which means he can be up until midnight. The only way to keep him asleep for more than an hour if he takes an early nap is to let him sleep on a person, and MIL is perfectly happy with him sleeping on her chest...
 

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Thank you for all the great tips! I kept him up a bit longer than usual this morning (and surprisingly, he handled it well - normally he gets pretty cranky before his first nap!), so we'll see how it goes. If after a couple of days, he still seems to wake up after 45 min, then I'll try going in early and lying down with him so I'm there when he stirs. I do think that would help, I just don't want to disrupt him if he was going to stay asleep on his own, you know?<br><br>
In any case, I'm glad to know that it's a common problem and that hopefully he'll outgrow it on his own. I just feel bad when I can tell he's still tired, but I can't help him get more sleep.
 
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