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<p>X posted this in nighttime bed too...</p>
<p>DS is 14 months.  He started walking last week.  He is getting molars.  He is a very spirited little man.  Our bedtime ritual has changed and evolved over time - and now is bath with mama, books with daddy, then mama comes back in room as daddy sings a lullabye.  I (mama) lay on the bed and he crawls over to me, grinning, and nurses to sleep. Sometimes I scoop him up into his crib - taking him to bed on his first waking... but more often than not I fall asleep beside him.  He nurses so much during the night - especially with these teeth, that I take any sleep I can get!</p>
<p>It has been working great for about two months.  Before that I was wearing him in the ergo and bouncing and singing to him for at least 45 min after bath/books every night....like I said...evolving :)</p>
<p>I think he is transitioning to one nap as well.  He has been taking one 2hr (ish) nap around 9-11 and then another hour starting around 3.  The "2,3,4 nap-sleep thing" was working for us....until he recently started refusing his afternoon nap more than 1/2 of the time...so I started doing bedtime earlier (but with out the compass provided by his "4 hours after his second nap" I just kinda chose 7pm as a bedtime.  He was super tired from his long day so he would crawl up to me and fall right asleep.  I also started to slowly move his first nap later by taking him outside after breakfast to try and shorten the time between sleeps...</p>
<p>Anyway, the past two nights have looked like this.</p>
<p>bath</p>
<p>books with daddy</p>
<p>I come in to nurse</p>
<p>DS climbs over to me.</p>
<p>DH leaves room and shuts light</p>
<p>DS crawls off bed and wants to play.  He bangs on the door. He discovers the laundry room off of the bedroom that never interested him before... He wails when I pick him up.  He refuses my breast - it seems to make him cry even.I felt like I was holding him prisoner when he clearly wanted to leave bedroom so I opened the door and he played with the lights dimmed in the LR for a bit then back to bedroom with toys, dim lights etc...after an hour he has crawled up onto bed (mattress on floor) and nursed right to sleep.  And slept really well both nights.  For him, really well.  He has always woken to nurse every hour...  Still nursing - but one four hour chunk of sleep and much less restlessness. And he woke up 11hours after he went down...  But he had been awake for 7 hours both days.  And he was tired!</p>
<p>So, how should I handle this?  Maybe not let him out of bedroom, but let him play til he's ready to sleep? He is SO responsive to repetition and routine and as we are entering the toddler years and I.am. confused.  Isn't 7 hours a long time to be awake at 14mths?  Should I go back to 2,3,4ing him???? Also, both yesterday and today he is super fussy and frustrated-so it's not a slam dunk like "duh lemontree just make his bedtime later!"  He's all wonky.</p>
<p>I want to help him sleep when he is clearly tired but don't know if I should have enforced more boundries...if he were a crib baby maybe he would have played in his crib until he was ready to sleep...how do you bedsharing families deal with this stuff?</p>
 

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<p>My son is 13 months and a couple of times he wanted to get up and play. It was clearly bed time (he sleeps in our bed), so I just followed him around and shut off any night light so he was in the dark but I was with him. He soon realized that it's not very interesting to putter around in the darkness and went back onto the bed with us and breastfeeding, then sleep.</p>
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<p>Our DD is 17 months. But our routine started at about 13-14 months.</p>
<p>She wakes between 7-8am. She has a 1.5-2hour nap about 5.5 hours after waking. Then she goes to bed about 5 hours after waking from nap.</p>
<p>Her bedtime routine is bath, books, boob, bed. She wakes a couple of times during the night to feed, then she goes back to sleep.</p>
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<p>If she won't go to sleep and still wants to play, we get her up, let her play for 20-30minutes and then try again with a shorter bedtime routine, just one book, then nurse, then bed. It usually works. We do not have the patience to wrestle with a toddler who dopesn't want to sleep. Much less aggrivating to just let her play a bit more then to fight her down to sleep.</p>
 

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<p>We just went through a similar rough patch (my son is 15 months) and my only advice is to stay strong and know that this will pass.</p>
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<p>Did you know there is a huge developmental leap between 50-55 weeks? This can make some babies super crabby and disrupt their sleep. My son's sleep got so much better once he passed through the "stormy period" described here.</p>
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<p><a href="http://www.thewonderweeks.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=59:mental-leap-9&catid=36&Itemid=161" target="_blank">http://www.thewonderweeks.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=59:mental-leap-9&catid=36&Itemid=161</a></p>
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<p><a href="http://www.thewonderweeks.com/images/stories/Book/WW_info_chart.pdf" target="_blank">http://www.thewonderweeks.com/images/stories/Book/WW_info_chart.pdf</a></p>
 
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