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Hello -<br><br>
So in the last week I swear at least 4 or 5 people have come up to me and my 3.5 month old dd and started touching her hands while she's in my (ring) sling. (she's facing forward). Twice I actually stepped back and they stepped forward so they could keep touching her! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Now since dd sucks on her hands all the time, I'm not a big fan of people who know my dd touching her hands, let alone a total stranger. Has anyone else encountered this problem? I don't remember having it with my ds ... Part of me says well they're being rude so I'll be rude back but that tends to bring me down.<br><br>
Any advice/words of wisdom/snappy comebacks or comments would really be appreciated!<br><br>
Thanks!<br><br>
Mona
 

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nak - the only solutions i've found are:<br>
1. tuck hands inside sling (where thay are prime for sucking)<br>
2. sometimes i'll hold both of her hands with my hands<br><br>
i have the same problem... good luck!
 

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That has happened to me too. I hate it, I feel like such a dut after it happens but I just keep some wipes/hand solution to keep her clean. People do it out of love but that does not make it ok !
 

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Keep a few wipes handy in your pocket (in a little ziploc-type bag) and make sure to pull them out in plain sight and clean your baby's hands right then and there. You are being cautious (especially in cold/flu season, this is important!!!) and it shows them that maybe they need to think twice before touching your baby. More often than not, they'll get the hint and apologize for grabbing baby's hands.<br><br>
However, this does not work with everyong. I was standing in line at a grocery store once and had a woman come up to me who had not bathed in quite some time and who was not wearing the cleanest of clothes and started pawing at my baby. I asked her to please not touch the baby since it was cold/flu season (DD was just a couple of months old) and this woman looked at me, smiled, POKED my child and ran away. ARGH!!!!<br><br>
Oh, after that, I made up a couple of buttons that said "Please do not touch my hands & face" and wore one on the front of my sling if DD was in a front carry; and one on the front and one on the back if she was in a hip-carry position. Passive, I know, but it worked for most people (the kind people generally understand that you're trying to keep your child from getting sick).
 

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I enter protective momma mode and grab the person's wrist - only happened once. I smiled and explained that she's teething and her hands are in her mouth all the time.<br><br>
The person in question gave me an "overprotective mother" look but left DD alone.
 

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With DS1, I put a button on the front of the sling near the rings that had pawprints and said, "paws off". Seemed to make the point.<br><br>
I held his hands a lot too, but I think out of habit, not consciously.
 

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I politely ask people not to touch the baby as we are concerned about germs and virus transmission. If they shrug me off, ignore me, or don't stop for any other reason, I have no problem physically stopping them from touching the baby (by grabbing their wrist, or preferably by just turning away quickly).<br><br>
My first baby contracted RSV at the age of 1 month and was hospitalized for the next three weeks. He was on a ventilator to help him breathe, he had a six-week course of one of the most powerful antibiotics known to mankind, and it nearly killed him. So I have no problem being rude to people who want to inappropriately touch a newborn these days.<br><br>
(I'm not suggesting that my baby got RSV from someone who touched him in a grocery store, but my feeling is, why take the chance just to avoid being rude to someone, y'know?)
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> they only do it to cute baby just watch when you are out if they are doing it to you cooing over your baby feel blessed that others think your dc is soooooooo cute toooo <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> wipes and mini hand sanitizer(sp) they dont really stop to think of the germs i think it is just easier to let it pass sometimes and just wipe off after but i have been knowen to move away fast and also cover baby
 

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Say "Please don't touch her," or "I prefer strangers don't touch my baby." SImple is that, and I've said it several times . Andyone who is bold/rude enough to touch strange babies cand handle an abrupt comment or a hand back to stop them. No one touches my kids in public, ever.
 
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