[KatWrangler]

My 3 year old, not me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
My son turned 3 on Feb 27th. He still isn't using the potty. He doesn't show any interest either. I mean he will get the wipes out and bring me a diaper to change him, usually at my urging.<br><br>
Is this normal? I am getting concerned eventhough the Ped said back in February to not worry about and try this spring/summer.<br><br>
Another thing making me nervous is the IL's are coming in May. I know they will have a coniption (sp?) fit that he is not using the potty yet. Which makes me defensive and upset.<br><br>
Please help! What am I doing wrong? He is my first born and I have no experience with this.

 

[MissSJ]

I wouldn't worry about what family thinks. What do YOU think? If you don't mind and don't think dc is ready then I'm sure it won't hurt to wait. Have you started talking about the potty and encouraging him to sit on a little one? How about while you go have him sit on one and talk about how he is sitting on a potty just like mama is? Or maybe introduce some books about using the potty and talking about how the people in dc's life use the potty and wear underwear - not in a condescending make him feel bad because he isn't kind of way but maybe he doesn't realize (like my dc) that EVERYONE doesn't wear diapers kind of way. Good luck, you can always just say your ped recommended waiting longer. That is what I always do "well the dr said..." even though I"m not big into caring what the dr's say!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

 

[artgoddess]

completely normal, I wouldn't worry at all. If the IL's give you any crap tell them that you can't afford the therapy bills later so you aren't going to force him before he is ready.

 

[Cardinal]

Let the in-laws know about the situation BEFORE they come, so you can has it out on the phone without your son hearing them complain about his non-potty usage. He'll pick up on their body language and tone otherwise. If they give you a hard time on the phone, just do your best to be calm and try hard not to argue. Simply state that he is not ready. Then change the subject. They'll get the hint. Why do they need to care about his pottying anyhow?