I have three boys who are 6,4 and 2. My oldest is pretty good about picking up thier shared room but I feel it is really wrong to expect himto continue this. Thier room is THIER responsibility and i will not tidy it for them but It has to stay neat as i do home daycare. My 4 year old is the biggest struggle. He s soooo stubborn. I try to make it a game, make it a race, encourage him to help me clean up, etc... but he refususes. My two year odl is teh same. It took me three hours one day to get him to pick up soem magnet letters off of teh floor! I end up getting frusturated and yelling at them. Yesterday I began at 11 am asking them to pick up thier room.Every time i went in to check on them they wer goofing off, playing and altogteher ignoring me which was very frusturating. BY 7 pm it was WORSE than when they started. I spent all day repeating, asking, threatening to take away priveleges, and finally yelling and I even spanked them both (not the 2 yr old) I feel liek I messed up so bad yesterday and obviously need a plan. I have been letting my two yr old get away with no helping cuz its easier than fighting with him and Aidan. That needs to stop. Any ideas? Reward systems? What about if i lock thier toy closet and just set out a few things each day like the blocks and cars and rotate? If they wanted something else they could ask me? Is that too harsh? Any ideas are welcome. This is a big battle in our home and as a single mom i just cannot do it all myself. they need to help out by cleaning thier messes.