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Here's the situation. My husband and I have the opportunity of a lifetime and we have chosen to take it. After almost a decade of working too long, commuting too long, dealing with too much stress and not seeing each other or him seeling the children enough, we're calling it quits. We're moving in with my parents who need all sorts of help with major projects. In exchange for helping them, they are covering room and board. We're planning on staying with them for about a year while my husband decides, as he puts it, what he wants to do when he grows up. We're also planning on enjoying our time as a family and actually having time for a more well rounded existance (yoga, learning to play the guitar, etc). [I bought him the book UnJobbing to give him the day he quits.]<br><br>
So great opportunity. Most people don't get a year off to find themselves in this day and age. The problem? My parents are about as far from healthy home as you can get. We have two small children (3 this month and 10 months) and I worry about their exposure to, well, everything. Because they are giving us this chance, I don't want to storm in like the anti-toxins, anti-pestiside nazi. I'm just starting to make so many of the switches myself that I'm not knowledgable enough to truly explain why. I'm trying to make so many changes in our life, living with really mainstream people is going to make it so much harder. (If I was already firm about everything this wouldn't be so hard) HELP! These are intelligent people who need facts, statistics (well mom, cotton uses x% of the worlds pestisides and pestisides contribute to the following . . .). I know there are thousands of books out there but we're moving in a few weeks and I doubt I'm going to have much reading time between packing. Any thoughts, ideas, websites, hints, books I can get for them (I was thinking Fast Food Nation and Healthy Home, Healthy Planet??). I needs to be gently, non-accusatory, not very lefty or it might turn them off. These are Walmart and Costco shoppers (bulk instead of quality), it just isn't clean if I haven't doused it in soemthing truly toxic, buy the grandkids too too many toys but they're all plastic crap, people - but they do want the best for us. Since the are covering room and board, organic, etc is soo much more expensive. HELP!<br><br>
TIA<br>
(<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">: To give you an idea of what we're up against, the last time we visited and I kept having to run out and get the kids different food for the pantry, my father actually, literally, really and truly said, "All this natural stuff just isn't good for a person." in deep concern for our son. They mean well, but Yikes!)
 

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I think giving them books at their age is not going to suddenly change their ways. They are probably happy the way they are, and don't want/need to change. But you *both* are going to have to bend--not changing the other, but just realizing that's the way the other does things and live in harmony anyway. Since you are the ones living with them, it means that you will have the biggest attitude adjustment to make. If you feel that you just cannot do that, then it might be good to think of an alternative plan.
 
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