I am really hoping to find some new ideas... we are a GD family and we have been working a lot with my 4 yo who has been having issues lately... we avoid no's whenever possible, give options, let him help find solutions, etc etc. but occasionally the answer is no and he gets incredibly angry, like explosive and then he will not listen to anything, will not accept love. and will not talk except to say whatever he thinks over and over... then he will strike out (usually by punching) whoever he feels is the cause of his frustration. He only does this with the family not friends... When he is not angry we tlk about ways to deal with angry, like telling what he is feeling "I am really mad" or stomping his feet (which he does) but in the moment he needs to strike out... I feel like he figures, he is hurting so he wants the person who hurt him to hurt too... he usually diffuses fairly quickly afterwards and right now I have let it go... explaining without blame that we use gentle touch (he says he knows it is wrong and he just forgot) and reminding him of ways we talk about to deal with his anger... I do not make him say sorry etc... and I am hoping it will go away BUT lately it seems more frequent and well I was thinking today thatif he's still hitting me like this when he's 10 I am going to have bruises! So, how else can I remind him? deter him? give him other tools to deal with his frustration? I am already working a lot on avoiding frustration altogther and this is working and getting less... but hey, everyone has reason to be frsutrated/mad sometimes and I don't know how to help with his "explosions"... Ideas????