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Hi! I'm hoping someone here can help me. My ds is 33 months old and just starting to put 2 words together. His language was developing normally until we moved to Germany at 16 months. He just stopped all together, probably because it was very stressful for him. He is very intelligent and knows a lot of words. When we lived in Germany he would take direction in both languages and seemed to be OK except he just wasn't into talking We moved back to the states at 27 months and when we were settled in our new home we started him in day care to give him socialization and help him with talking. He did take right off and learned lot's of new words but he hit another plateau. He really seems bored quite often but he is touch and go with engaging in interactive activity with me. He seemed unhappy with daycare so we are going to keep him home starting next week. I just woke up after my first trimester of this pregnancy and realized he is still not talking much. He started putting 2 words together about a month ago and the kids at school said he was talking but it still isn't amounting to anything. We spent the weekend together and he was so frustrated. He just distroyed anything we were playing with. He would get frustrated with his trains and destroy them. He wanted us to play in the sand with him and he distroyed anything we build. We try to give him what he wants but we just can't seem to get it right and he is frustrated and so am I. We have a doctor's appointment this week. At his regular check up in January she said we would give it more time before starting speech therapy. I'm going to insist on a referal this time.<br><br>
Does anyone have an recommendations of what we can to at home? We read a lot and he knows the words to his favorite books. There are song books that we used to sing all the time. We hadn't taken them out for a while but he wanted to play with them last week and he was singing along. He recites his favorite books statically but knows them and can finish the sentences when I stop and ask him the question to finish the sentence. There just seems to be a block we can't seem to clear. Has anyone tried any of the video series? He does really react well to video's and will talk along with them and use them to practice words. We just need to make this connection.<br><br>
Thanks for reading. Any help is greatly appreciated!
 

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Sorry, no suggestions here. I just wanted to agree with you to push for a referral. I think parents generally know better than peds if their kids need some extra help.
 

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Get the referal!!! If the doctor won't then you could possibly go through the school system, around here it's age 3 that they have to provide help, with both the evaluation and the therapy. There is also the state early intervention before age 3, you can approach them and tell them your concerns and they should be able to get you an evaluation and if it shows therapy would be helpful then they will help you arrage things.<br><br>
we also had a block where my son would not work with me, he would not use words at all, I knew he could but he wouldn't, We started therapy and I also enlisted a friend to do his practice with him and boy did he leap, once he got over that hump, he's been working with me and things are progressing. (I traded doing chores around my friend's house while she worked with my son, much less frusterating for the both of us and my friend loved having the laundry washed folded put away or the bathroom cleaned!)
 

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lightheart,<br>
I just want to comment because that is such a creative solution to trade chores for a friend helping your son! I'm making a mental note of that.
 

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I *highly* recommend your family and DS learning how to sign in the meantime. My DS who will be 3 in Aug only has a few (mostly unintelligable) words, doesn't put two words together, and doesn't say mama, dada, etc. But we have been signing with him for a few months now and he has picked up a ton from it. It has really, really helped with the frustration issues and he is so happy to be able to communicate with us. He now puts two signs together on his own and regularly uses at least 25 signs, picking them up a lot quicker than speech.<br><br>
We started learning signs from a few baby-signing websites, then ended up getting the Signing Time DVDs and flashcards. Those are really great, and the flashcards come in handy for when he has a babysitter so they figure out what he is saying.<br><br>
I hope you manage to get therapy started ASAP for your DS. It can take a long time to get things moving, but push for what you need. Though we have had some general therapy since DS was 2, it isn't really addressing his needs and we finally got a referral for a developmental ped but of course that apt isn't until mid-June <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: . In the meantime we are trying to do as many at-home therapies as we can to help.<br><br>
ETA: Just wanted to say that signing seems to help my DS speak a little more. It sorta 'cues' him onto the word, there are a few words he never said until he learned the sign for it.
 

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Thanks for the recommendations! I'm going to head over to the Oklahoma board and see if anyone knows about "pushing" the issue faster. I can't seem to find anything much when I google. My next door neighbor is a teacher in the local schools and she recommended starting early but the person they knew to talk with is no longer working in this small town.<br><br>
Thanks again!
 

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Well, we got the referral but it means nothing at this point. In Oklahoma the schools don't take part in speech development until your child actually starts school at age 5. If your child is in head start/pre-k or on medicaide it is paid for. We would have to pay out of pocket. $200 for the evaluation and $129 for each visit after that. I'm currently heartbroken.<br><br>
I'm going to send out feelers to everyone I know for advise on workbooks or whatever may help me to help him at home. I'm also going to see if any of the local speech therapists from the schools would be willing to help for a reasonable rate. Like $20 per visit or something like that. We've lived here for 5 months and don't know many people.<br><br>
It's like the state thinks that it's good enough to help all those in gov't aided programs. It's like because they are "financially challenged" their parents must be stupid and need help but if you make enough money you are magically OK. OK, so there are A LOT of poor people in this town. There are 3 head start programs in like a 5 mile radius. I feel like an idot parent because my child is too distracted to listen or interact half the time, like it's my fault. Gee, have your husband quit his job and we'll give you everything...<br><br>
UGGHHH
 

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Hi Victoria,<br><br>
I didn't see if you wrote that your son tries to talk but it is not understandable or if your son's speech is good and that he doesn't use words often.<br><br>
When we had early intervention, we did 30 min per week, but the bulk of the therapy was done at home with us, so you certainly can get some advice from these boards and probably pick up a book or two in the meantime.<br><br>
As pp mentioned, we also used the signing time videos and our son's vocabulary exploded with each volume. He knows the signs, but does not use the sign to communicate, somehow learning the signs helped him speak them much easier. but i do agree to learn sign however he chooses to use it, it hopefully will help ease some of his frustrations. Also singing helps him learn words easier than through talk.<br><br>
Your son sounds like he is getting frustrated often, we use pictures & charts for everything to help our son. I buy the cheap photo albums and have one for places we visit (store, grandma, etc) to show him and tell him, one for his videos and so on. We have charts of our daily routine too.<br><br>
You can do paralell talking which may help him, you talk while doing an activity together and explain what you and he are doing in detail while it's happening. "Ok now it's mommys turn, mommy rolls the dice, mommy got one, mommy moves her piece one, now it's Jake's turn, Jake picks up the dice, etc."
 

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Since your son isn't 3 yet, you should be able to get free evaluations done through Early Intervention. Once you call them, they have 30 days to contact you and schedule an evaluation (?? there are strict timing guidelines. But I may be off on the schedule).<br><br>
But you would have to hurry, since that coverage is running out.<br><br>
So special ed isn't mandated from ages 3-21 in your state? That's terrible. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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good news!<br><br>
I did find and get in touch with Early Intervention here in OK. They help kids up to age 3 so hopefully we will at least be able to get an evaluation before ds turns 3. They are a little behind at the moment but will be back in touch with me. We live in a small town and the woman who does it was unavailable. I had also thought head start was income based but it's not. It's simply first come first served. I'll just have to believe that if we need a spot one will open up for ds.<br><br>
We are actually comunicating pretty well in a lot of ways lately but the pushing and kicking and spitting and temper tantrums tell me something else. We shall see.
 

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checked back to see how things were going, glad you got ahold of EI!<br><br>
Something else that may help with head start, it was explained to me here they do a point system, income can be a factor, but so are other things and speech is one of them, so start thinking of anything dysfunctinable in your son's life that you can point out if he's on the border line of getting accepted or not.
 

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Hi! I thought i posted but alas, no post <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/duh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="duh">: Have you tried signing with him? It takes a lot of frustration away to be able to communicate clearly in another way. It does not add to any delay & is a fantastic strategy to use with any child.<br><br>
Can you give more information about the specifics of his speech & language development? I could give more suggestions with more info.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">:
 
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