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Hi Ladies,<br><br>
I need some good advice here, I have a ds who loves his nursing, who is 21 months old right now....<br>
My sister is having her wedding in South Africa in October (I know it's a long way off still, but I'm already starting to worry about it!) She would really like me to be there, and I'm thinking of going for maybe a week or so...Dh does not want me to travel alone with ds, so the plan is that I go alone.<br>
My worry is that Ds will not have weaned by then (he will be 2 yrs and 4 months old then), and I don't want to speed up his weaning just so I can travel...<br>
I was thinking that a good solution would be to pump for him while I'm gone, but was wondering how soon I need to start getting him accustomed to it, should I start now? (I've never pumped before, so the whole idea seems a bit daunting) What if he doesn't take to it? He is naturally a bit fussy when it comes to food...and the only way he gets to sleep right now is to nurse...<br>
Do you think leaving him at all is a bad idea? Is he too young at that age to be separated from mama? Anyone with a similar experience?<br><br>
Thanks so much, any advice is welcome.
 

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I must applaud your desire to meet the needs of your child, while also fulfilling your desire to be there for your sister.<br>
There is really no reason why you can't leave your son with his father for a week, it'd probably be a very fun time for them too! I went away for a long weekend when ds was 1, I swear they were sharing secret jokes when I got back! LOL Dh seemed so much more connected and in tune with him.<br><br>
I would start pumping at least a few months before the trip. If you started with you giving him the breast milk from the bottle, then gradually let DH or whoever will be taking care of him while you're gone. One suggestion -I had most success with the playtex drop-in bottles, their nipples are very realistic and my DS could barely tell the difference. The breast milk freezer bags dropped in quite nicely, so dh didn't have to transfer milk at all.<br>
I would ABSOLUTELY take the trip, and if DH does not want you taking DS with you, then this is the best compromise. Also, as you approach the day, try to gauge how much/often he nurses, and make sure you have lots of extra milk in the freezer.<br>
Enjoy your trip. I've always heard S Africa is absolutely breath taking.
 

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I have left my two of my 18 month-2 year old for 4-5 days and it didn't effect nursing at all. they jumped right back in.<br><br>
they also didn't miss me, or nursing and enjoyed the time with grandma and papa. I don;t see any reason to leave mnilk behind for a child that old. I din't get engorged or anything and didn't need to pump while I was gone. If my milk supply lagged when I got home my child didn't seem to care or notice. After nursing for that long your supply will be pretty established.
 

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I had to go to Hong Kong for two weeks right after dd's second birthday. I work outside the home so I had pumped for her for the first year but had transitioned to cow's milk at daycare after that.<br><br>
I took my pump with me and pumped while I was gone. My supply went down to almost nothing within just a few days. I think I got a little dehydrated on the plane, plus stress, puls the time change, etc. but I kept at it 2x a day anyway.<br><br>
Dd did not enjoy me being gone but dh was there and my mom was also there for most of the time. I wasn't sure if she'd still want to nurse when I got back or not.<br><br>
When I got home she did still want to nurse. It took her a minute to latch right but after that she was happy. She nursed almost nonstop for several days after that. I don't know if she was trying to rebuild the milk supply or if she was just trying to reconnect with me but the result was that my milk supply came back. We nursed for almost another full year and weaned just short of her third birthday.<br><br>
Good luck with your decision! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I forgot to say that since dd was already used to taking cow's milk at daycare I did not pump any milk to leave for her while I was gone.
 

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Thank you ladies, that has made me feel alot more confident....<br>
I know it may be hard for him, me being gone, maybe I can get away with just 4 or 5 days (bearing in mind the time it takes to travel there and back!)<br><br>
One question, does your milk diminish even if I will be pumping while away? Or does that depend on the woman?<br><br>
I know my sister will find it very hard if I told her I could'nt be there...I will be her bridesmaid. And I know South Africa is breathtaking, I grew up there! Someday I will get to go for longer to show ds when he can remember a bit more!
 
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