[Rylins mama]

I really dont even know what Im asking but here is the situation..

dd is 2 years old (today!) She has been co sleeping from day one. ds is 4 months old. We (kids,me,dh) are all in a queen size bed against the wall. We fit just fine although there isnt much room for movement but are planning on getting a california king in 2 months. When dd goes to sleep, I rock her for about 10 minutes and shes out! Nap time, I put her in her bed and bedtime she goes to ours. Most of the time she sleeps completely through the night unless she has a bad dream. I think if I put her in her bed right now that she would do great. Now the problem..... Im not ready!!! For one... we move in 2 months... Im worried for security reasons. We live in a place with basically NO crime right now.. and we will be going to a place with A LOT more. Once we buy a house we will get the best securty system we can but it just isnt good enough for me. I wouldnt mind keeping her in bed with us until ds is 2 and moving them at the same time so they have each other. Im w2orried that at that point it might just be too hard though. I just dont know what to do.

 

[vivvysue]

is there something prompting the change? some reason that you are wanting to move her into her own bed now? if not then i see no reason why you shouldnt just keep her with you as long as you feel comfortable with having her there. as for what it will be like when you want her in her own room later, who can really say what the future holds but i think that as long as you approach the change with a lot of love and gentleness that she will manage fine.
fwiw, i did this with my two youngest children and i always loved that for their whole lives they have woken up and seen each other first for their whole remembered life

they still share a room at my house... they have their own room at their dad's... they are happy either way as far as i can tell, and often like to 'camp out' in the living room on weekends when they both sleep on the couches

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[Rylins mama]

Thank you. Well my husband is more of just getting tired of not getting to move at night. He really doesnt complain at all but every month or so will ask when were going to move her. Im soo not ready now, but he was telling me the other day that his 9 year old brother still refuses to sleep alone andmade it clear that, that will never happen. I slept with my mom till about age 7, my one brother until he was about 9 and my youngest till about 6 but I think my mom let us do it that long cause mine and brother #1s dad died and she felt too alone. With brother #3... he either slept with my mom or me (hes 10 years younger). I guess I just want to make the transition easier for her later. But I do NOT want her to feel like were giving ds more love then her by putting her in her own bed and him staying in ours, thats why I want to move them together in about a year and a half.

 

[vivvysue]

when things got squishy with my oldest dd, now 23, but i guess she was around 2-3 when it happend... we made her a little pallet on the floor beside the bed. with a few folded blankets and some pillows to make sure she didnt roll under the bed in the night while sleeping. that worked really well for her and gave us a bit more room to move. maybe if you moved her to a spot like that after she has fallen asleep, she would still get all the niceness of rocking or nursing or whathaveyou and you and dh would have a little more room.. the bigger bed might help too... it is so hard moving them away from us.. well that is how i felt... i needed them near me to feel safe at night.
hth~

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