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Also posted in the 'family bed' forum.<br><br>
My ds is 2 1/2 and still nurses at night and co-sleeps. I love the sleeping part, and the nursing is tolerable..some times!!. My problem is this, we are expecting our second ds in about 4 weeks. I'm going to be at the hospital for 2 nights and ds will be either with my mother or with dh, but I'm extremely worried that he is going to have such a hard time w/o me...<br>
I don't think that there's any alternative, I even have to share a room w/ someone else after giving birth so having ds room in w/ me at the hospital is impossible. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that ds will be fine...<br>
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The best thing I can say is that if I tell my ds about something he's not going to like in advance, he gets upset when I tell him but handles the actual event wonderfully. So talk to him and let him know what's gonna happen.<br>
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Good idea, to prepare him for the events coming up and the separation... one idea is to make him a little "book" that tells the story of how mama will go to the hospital and he will spend time with g'ma and daddy, and how he will sleep without mama for a couple of nights but soon mama will come home. You don't have to be an artist, just basic drawings to get the idea across...or you can use photos or magazine pictures to illustrate it... read it together each day and when you are in the hospital he can read it with dh and g'ma to help remind him that you will be coming back soon. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hello spirit4ever,<br><br>
my son was 30 months old as well when i had my second baby. I did talk to him a little bit about mommy being away for a couple of nights. he had weaned himself a couple of months before the birth of my second. so he did not need to nurse but was very much attached to me. he was ok during the day and the first night as well. the second night he did miss me a lot and started crying in the middle of the night. Please hint to your husband and grandma also to be prepared to handle the situation in a gentle manner. In our case, my husband was sleep deprived too and he is very terrible when it comes to getting woken up in the middle of his sleep. He just gets impatient and irritated if his sleep is disturbed. So he was quite hard on my son the second night asking him to go out of the bedroom if he wanted to cry for mommy. i felt very sad on hearing that. I hope your dh is more patient than that. it is a very short period of time which the other parent should be able to handle just fine if they have some empathy and compassion for what their older kid is going through. You may want to read your ds a book or whatever you do with him before he goes to sleep right before he leaves the hospital to go to home for the night.<br><br>
good luck with your birth.<br><br>
Peace & Love!
 
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