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On Wednesday I had a brief period of contractions... they were hard enough to take my breath away but I only had three one hour and then one the next hour and then they stopped, so I just drank lots and rested.<br><br>
Then yesterday I felt crampy with a lower backache most of the day. I had really low pelvic pressure when I stood or sat and then contractions started again. Although they weren't as hard as the ones on Wednesday they were more regular and lasted longer... best of all, I had no phone because of a storm that knocked it out in our area for 24 hours. (Just the phone/internet thankfully though, we still had power).<br><br>
So when J got home last night I took the cell and paged my midwife... she is off call this weekend so I talked to my backup midwife who said she wanted me to come into the clinic and be checked. I went and she didn't find the heartbeat which was nervewracking, but I was feeling movement, so she said that it was probably because the baby was really low (hence the pressure on my cervix).<br><br>
She checked me and I am already starting to dilate. My cervix was mushy soft as well... She offered to page the oncall OB and accompany me to the hospital which I declined because they were just going to bedrest me there probably with an IV... and I decided I'd rather do bedrest and drink lots at home. I have had terrible terrible experiences at my local hospital, and do not want to repeat what happened when I was pregnant with T (I started dilating at 18.5 weeks with him).<br><br>
She was totally supportive and respectful and just overall awesome, I couldn't have asked for more. We discussed the merits of doing an ultrasound to check position of placenta and to check whether my cervix is funelling. Normally position of placenta wouldn't matter this stage of the game, but if I do deliver in the next 4, 6, 8 weeks it could matter if it's low. Also we talked about the fact that sometimes preterm labour is an indication of something being wrong with the fetus, so the ultrasound will help determine that too. All of this information will help me make a better decision on where to deliver when the time comes, so I believe I am going to get it done even though we weren't planning on one.<br><br>
Today I am feeling better, no contractions. Still lots of low pelvic pressure so I am trying to stay flat as possible and drink lots. I'll post if I have more updates, or try and get someone too (I have a couple IRL friends who are also mdcers).<br><br>
I hope everyone else is well. *hugs*
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I'm so sorry you are going through this! Grab a good book, stay in bed, and think good thoughts. My prayers are with you!
 

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Oh my goodness how scary! I hope all the rest and extra fluids help. I will be thinking of you . . . <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> how scary. i will def keep you in my thoughts. I can't remember did you deliver early with ds?
 

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Oh Alison I am so sorry you are going thru this. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you irl. Even if you just need someone to watch T for a bit or anything else I can do. You are definitely in my prayers - keep us updated. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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So sorry this is happening! Has your midwife mentioned anything about an incompetent cervix? Don't know if that diagnosis would help anything but if the same thing happened in your last pregnancy it might be good to think about?
 

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you are in my thoughts and prayers mama. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
what happened with your son when you started to dilate at 18 weeks?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Good luck Triscuitsmom, I will be thinking of you.
 

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you are in my thoughts, get lots of rest. do you have someone to help with T?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Let us know what you find out from your u/s. That is very scary, I sincerely hope everything is OK mama. I will be thinking of you....
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Thinking of you...keep that baby cooking mama!
 

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Definitely praying that that baby stays in as long as is safe/possible. Keep us posted!
 

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Sending stay in baby vibes your way!
 

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Oh mama, I hope everything's ok- waiting for updates!
 

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Just a quick check in and then I`m heading to bed. I have been taking it easy and the contractions have tapered off since Saturday. Sunday I had the pelvic pressure all day but after resting again today it seems to have faded for the most part as well so that is all good news <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
I have an ultrasound scheduled for Thursday at 2:45pm (eastern). I will update after that for sure.<br><br>
On the negative side I talked to my own midwife today. After getting tons of compassion from the backup midwife this weekend my own midwife was very cold today and talking in black and white. She was telling me what I was giong to do in different situations as opposed to giving me a voice and a choice... and at one point she was even blaming me because this has happened to me before. The way she said it made it seem like my fault that I`ve had two labours that started so early... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I am hoping that the rest of this week goes well. I`m trying to stay busy with schoolwork because I can do that while laying down, and also trying to stay on top of my two year old. He is being pretty amazing though and keeps patting my arm comforting me when I`m in pain and he brings me books and things if I ask him... he loves being the helper <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Anyway, that`s all for now... got to sleep, it`s late here... thank you so much for all of the good thoughts, you have no idea how much it means.
 

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wow i am so angry that your midwife would act like that. How mean.
 

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Good luck with you ultrasound. I'll be praying for you.<br>
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how is it your fault that you've had two labours start early???? with my first i had PROM and a very short cervix and none of that i asked for or induced.. i mean seriously! i was freaked out of my mind the entire 20 weeks i was on bed rest as you would be. ugh. i'm so sorry... that's not right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
still pulling for you... hoping to hear a happy update tomorrow!<br><br>
so sweet your son is taking care of you.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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