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We are getting closer to officially stepping off into the abyss, and traveling to get our kids. This is awesome, but there is still so much uncertainty about how long we'll have to stay in U~ before the US starts issuing visas again. We thought the issue was all worked out, but no, not yet. We've been making preparations for all of us to go there from here (NZ) and then dh would come back and work while the kids and I wait it out in U~. That plan we have our heads around...<br><br>
Here's where it gets tricky...<br><br>
I have been notified that I have an appointment in Canada to finish my Canadian citizenship on May 25th. I am thinking that it might be nice to fly there with the kids (these tickets would be paid for by dh's work) then get our stuff from there and drive down to california (in a 14' Uhaul) to leave our stuff in my parents garage (because our next move will be to California), and visit with everyone there (family and friends we haven't seen in about 2 years, including my mom, brother and his dd) until we get the call to go to U~. This means we would be leaving NZ, possibly forever, in exactly two weeks, though my dh would return here to continue working -- he JUST got a promotion, of course, though he will come to california as soon as we are there with the new kiddos and he has work there. We have to get his US immigration stuff finished up (he has his appointment with the US embassy in Auckland the same day I would have my citizenship appt in Canada, HILARIOUSLY ENOUGH<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">) and then he'll be legal to work in California. He would meet us in U~ to get custody of the kids, and he could stay for a week or two, then he'd return here and we'd stay in U~ until we get visas to enter the US, and honestly, at this point, it's anyone's guess how long that will take.<br><br>
so, yeah, a little overwhelmed. it's too much to deal with, but we have to just be brave and plunge forward. I could skip the trip to Vancouver to get my citizenship and the moving of our stuff to California, but it kind of makes a lot of sense to just get these things over and done. If I skip this citizenship appointment, I will have been out of Canada for too long, and I will lose my permanent residency, and have to start from scratch if (when) we ever decide to move back there. I would love to see my friends and family in california, especially since I have no idea when we'll be able to come back from U~.<br><br>
I need a glass of wine, some take-out Indian, and a hilarious movie, I'll be back tomorrow to read your words of encouragement. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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It sounds exhausting but i think you should go for it, esp since it sounds like you need to protect your perm. residency status in Canada. Thats alot of flying around, but if you are up to the challenge, why not? How long to you expect to have to stay in U? (weeks, months?)<br><br>
The thought of flying from NZ to Canada and then U makes me dizzy but i havent been on a plane since shortly after 9/11 so feel free to ignore me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
How exciting that you are getting so close!!!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">it's too much to deal with, but we have to just be brave and plunge forward.</div>
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This.<br><br>
It IS too much, but you need to do all of these things. And along the way, you'll see family and friends, probably have some great travel and adventures, and it's not going to be as overwhelming/task-oriented as it seems now. There will be lots of great moments, even in the busy-ness. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Dive in--it's time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Look on the bright side. Think of all the airport food you'll get to eat.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm overwhelmed my self, sounds like a CRAZY plan, but you know, we'll be in Vancouver (in and out) from May 20th to June 12th and we'd LOVE LOVE LOVE to see you guys! So for selfish reasons I'll say go for it, te he! I feel bad for Mark, though, that would be so hard to be away from you all for so long.<br><br>
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oh my goodness erica, you just completely eradicated one of the biggest hurdles, which is that Lucy is so sad to be leaving here so suddenly. I was feeling that guilt about uprooting the kids again, but it has to happen sometime, and if you guys will be in Vancouver when we are then that is huge. email me about your travel plans! we might have a pretty small window in Vancouver, so we have to make sure we're coordinated! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
thank you all for the words of encouragement! It feels like there is just too much to do in two weeks, but we can do it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
guess I better get packing... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Bolt.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bolt">
 

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Eat well, rest well...and plunge in!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Look on the bright side. Think of all the airport food you'll get to eat.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> hey, at least I don't have to make it or clean it up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I don't have any advice, except for do the below if you haven;t already!<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I need a glass of wine, some take-out Indian, and a hilarious movie, I'll be back tomorrow to read your words of encouragement. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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Sending positive thoughts for your journey whichever route you decide to take!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe we can have a big Van-ish tribe picnic?!<br>
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Yes, yes, yes!! I would come over from the Island for that!<br><br>
It sounds wild, tiffani, but so exciting and adventurous at the same time!
 

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So, Friday May 28th would be a FABULOUS day for me to plan a group get-together!!!!!! And if it could be in the Queen Elizabeth/Grimmet Park area, that would be EVEN BETTER!!!!!! Picnic lunch and play? And I guess, hope for sun!!!
 

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Can we come?<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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yay! let's take the Vancouver meet-up portion of this conversation over to the Vancouver tribe, and leave the adoption freak-out talk to the adoption forum. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I'm really glad that we'll have a nice loooooooooong time to transition the kids into our family in U~, but I have to just accept the fact that there is just nothing certain about this situation. rumors are swirling around about various things pertaining to U~ adoption, but we need to just keep forging ahead, and it will all work out. WHEN that will happen is anyone's guess, but having this trip to see family and friends that we haven't seen in SO LONG is really going to help me through the lengthy process in U~. Dh is having a blast at work right now, so that's excellent, since we're leaving him for an undetermined amount of time. It's really just a day to day struggle getting through all the junk that has to happen for us to leave here in two weeks, be prepared for everything to come, and not leave loose ends that will bite us in the a$$ later...<br><br>
thank you all so much for the encouragement, I'll continue just putting one foot in front of the other and we'll get through it! 4 countries, 3 continents, 2 months... no problem! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Oh, Tiffani, many, many ((hugs)). We went through some really crazy changes about a year ago, and I felt much the same as you do now. I know how daunting it is, but you will get through much better by taking one day at a time and let as many of the smaller things slide. I started choosing my battles wiser. Some areas in our lives didn't get as much attention, but it was all about survival, with the most mental health intact.<br><br>
Good luck and many blessings on your incredible journeys!
 

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Thanks Thandiwe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> how are things going with your case? I haven't heard an update in a long time, can you share?
 

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Wish I had a good one. Still no resolution. Sounds like no decision CAN be made for another 4-6 months. Classes need to be done, still not started. Nevermind the issues with other major areas in life necessary to raise a child. Our referee won't crap or get off the can already. Just idling along. It's hair-raisingly STUPID. Sorry... not too thrilled with them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Wow.<br><br>
To be totally honest, tiffany, I think the next few months of your life have the potential to be completely awesome. It won't be your normal, for sure, but it might be a time that you all remember fondly forever.
 

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well, we fly out on sunday! we made it through the first chunk of our process (that has been totally overwhelming, but I can't talk about online) and still have SO MUCH TO DO before we leave on sunday. I didn't even mention one of the biggest aspects of this whole adventure, because I can't talk about it publicly, but it's been just so insanely busy around here, my dh is working CRAZY hours, leaving me to do all the work, make all the decisions, etc... I think I'm going to collapse in a heap when we finally make it to vancouver...<br><br>
but I'm super excited to be going! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
Thandiwe, I'm so sorry this is dragging out forever for you. hope you're able to just relax and enjoy each day as best you can... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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