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I dont really want to wean but am not sure how to go about this. Ds is 15 months and nurses like a newborn, ok not that bad but still nurses about every 2 hours and wakes up several times a night to nurse. Things have been on the tighter side lately and there is a need for in home daycare on base. So I have been thinking about doing this. The problem is, I will have to take a week long class that is from 8-5 with only a short lunch. Ds has never been away from me longer than 2 hours. He would be with his dad while I was at this class but I also don't see how I can keep up with several other children and nurse him as much as I do. What I would like to do is mostly nurse him for bedtimes and naptimes and when he wakes up and start cutting out nursing during the day. But i have no idea how to go about doing this. Any help would be appreciated.
 

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I would talk to him about it. A lot. Start weeks before the class and talk about how sometimes mommy can give him milk but other times mommy is too busy or mommy is away. Talk about how that will work. Maybe start now putting him off for a short time if he asks at an inconvenient time or offer a substitute. Talk about foods he can eat if he is hungry. Talk about ways that both you and his father can comfort him when he gets upset that don't involve nursing. It will be hard but I think you can do it, gradually and kindly, with respect for your sons feelings.
 

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Is there any chance you can take him along to the class? Or have someone bring him during breaks so you don't have to wean? You could be the trailblazer for other nursing moms! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
If you explain your situation, the ppl running the course might be flexible. After all, it's a course for child care providers!<br><br>
Also, some such courses are available online or by correspondence, so you can be home w/ your babe.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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You don't say when you have to start this class, but I hope it's not too soon. What I would do is start getting him used to you being away longer and longer times. Do it gradually and monitor how he deals with it. I think it would be really really hard on all your family if you just up and left for all day one day. If you can put this course off for a month or two until you have adjusted everybody, then do it. This could be really really hard for your son and even if money is tight it's not worth it to rush him.<br><br>
FWIW, I think he'll be fine. At his age he should be able to go longer periods without nursing. I'm sorta working on my DD since I'm going back to work in January. She's almost 14 months now. Good luck!
 

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You might not have to do anything...<br><br>
My son nurses very frequently when I'm available and doesn't (without complaints) when he's otherwise occupied or I'm not around. At a year old, I started working 4 hours a day while he was home with his Dad. I pumped so he could have milk, but he didn't want it.<br><br>
Then he started day care full time (9 hours) at 17 months and didn't need to nurse. I was engorged the first day, but my supply had adjusted by the next. On the weekends he'd be back to very frequent nursing, so I'd always be a little full feeling on Mondays. ESP if your son is with Dad, I don't think your week away during the day will be an issue with him, he'll probably make up for lost time when you come home though. Leaving him with Dad for longer blocks of time may help. Dad could plan a special activity the first day, like a trip to the zoo or something to help him keep his mind off it.<br><br>
However, The hardest thing might be to not nurse him when you are around and trying to watch a handful of other kids. It could go either way... he may really enjoy having playmates around and not want to nurse, or he may be stressed out and possessive of his Mommy and want to nurse constantly... I've seen both behaviors in my son.<br><br>
He will get used to it eventually... setting limits now may not make sense to him... you are available so why not nurse? Once the other kids are around, it will be clear to him that you also need to take care of other children. If you explain that to him and try to accomodate him when you can, he may be very understanding. You should definately talk with him about it long in advance though and frequently.<br><br>
My advice is based on my impression that your son has had his needs met quickly and sensitively up to this point... it is natural for attached kids to respond to their parents needs with the same love and understanding... that is what they know.
 
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