Howdy! I am a FF mama who does not vaccinate her children! I have bf'd for three weeks, though I had to suppliment as I had next to no milk. I tried relactation techniques, but my ds is not a "sucker" he needs to be stimulated to even suck on a bottle, and yadda, yadda, yada. Anywho, I have been placing one pinch of vitamin C powder in each bottle. He had a head cold and cough just this week. It lasted 36 hours. My dd was schedule vaxed till I learned about vaccines and we have since discontinued vaxing her. She is 3 (as of this past Wednesday) I watch her diet, give her a multi vitamin suppliment and have placed her on a rotating schedule of a vit. c and echinacea suppliment. You can also use aromatherapy on babies 3 mos and older. I make a resistance booster spritz with 1/2 c. spring water 6 drops each Lavender and Tea Tree EO. Lavendar causes the body to produce more white blood cells, thus making it more resistant to infection.
Since the mama in your post has a preemie, I really cant be too specific on preemie nutrition, although she can try to get milk from a milk bank and should qualify as she has a preemie. That would be great.
Also this may seem overly simple, but try to limit their exposure to germs. I wipe down shopping carts with an anti bacterial/anti viral solution made from 1 c spring water and 60 drops of Grapefruit Seed Extract. Wash hands after using the potty, diaper changes and always before making/handeling bottles.
I carry hand sanitizer in my diaper bag and purse. We use it after touching doors, shaking hands, touching railings etc...It may seem alot, but think of all the people that poop, sneeze and all and don't wash and touch that very same thing.
Moms should also do all they can to keep their own immunity high. A sick mama will usually get her chidren sick and vice versa. I also rotate vit c and echinacea, take a multi and eat a healthy organic vegetarian diet.
Avoid unnecessary medications, even OTC. I use homeopathics, herbals and aromatherapy.
Try to make doctor appts to be the first patient of the day, that way the healthy children will not be exposed to the germs of all the sick ones that have been in and out all day, and believe me that thin useless paper on the exam tables are useless - ds caught his first cold on a well baby visit.
While I have no advice for finding a non vax friendly ped (mine is, but by a coincidence) I would just encourage her to have some stats on hand, to "defend" her choice should it arise and a vaccine refusal form ( I can post a generic one I have on my computer) filled out and ready to be placed in her file.
Next, keep well baby check ups, but as long as the baby has no health issues, after a while I would (and do) limit them.
I also have begun keeping a small journal for each of my children about their health. I just write their name, age and diet in it. I include vitamins given and then when they are ill I write in what it was, symptoms, diagnosis (if taken to a doc) and treatment given.
It is handy as well if you get advice for a treatment, then face needing to use it again, that way you never can forget it and can chart how well it works too. I use a cheapie notebook from the dollar store.
Well, that is all I can give, I am looking forward to other resonses.
Even if you are a breastfeeding mama (or a knowledgable papa) I would love to hear about things that you do to keep your treasures healthy!