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I found out on May 5 that I was pregnant...what a surprise! DH had had a vaectomy after DD was born, but we had it reversed 5 years ago in hopes of adding to the family again. We were told that DH developed anti-sperm antibodies and that the chances of us ever having another child were slim to none. It has taken a few years, but I had finally made peace with that decision. Then I turn up pregnant this month. DH, DD, DS and I were OVER THE MOON! I went to the doctor yesterday for my first appt/ultrasound. I do not know my O date but I know that LMP was March 29. Based on that, I should be 8 weeks. The OB saw the lining and the sac, but nothing else. She said it could either be earleir than we think, or that the baby stopped growing. SHe feels that it probably stopped growing. They will draw HCG levels on Monday and Wednesday to get a better idea. I took a pregnancy test last night and it still turns fast and is actually darker than the first time I took it. I am so confused and lost and worried. I called the doctor's office this morning and asked if they could please draw an HCG level this morning evn though I know it is Friday and that Monday is more than 48 hours away. I even offered to pay for the draw out of pocket just so I could have some idea of what is going on.<br>
I slept until about 12:30 last night and then was up until after 3:30 worrying and crying. I know i should relax until next week...but I can't sweem to get myself together. I want to ask God if he was going to take it away, why did he even put my baby in there to begin with. I have "made peace: with not having another child...and now I feel like I have been ripped apart again.<br>
Thank you all for listening to me ramble.
 

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It is VERY possible that you ovulated much later than LMP and the doc's "average" ovulation day of CD14. If you did, you could be something like 5-6 weeks pregnant and the sac and lining is all you would see. ((((hugs))) mama. I will be praying that things work out for you.
 

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What a stressful situation. I'm sorry, momma. I would definitely ask for a draw today and inquire about going to a lab Sunday for the 48 hour redraw. I hope you ovulated later, as kalamos23 suggested. I will be thinking of you. Please update when you are able. Sending you gentle hugs...<br><br>
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Oh, I am so sorry you're in this agonizing wait.<br><br>
Sometimes when health professionals think it's best to postpone testing, I don't think they realize how it feels to have your whole world teetering on a test result. How can a mom be expected to carry on like normal when such a life-changing thing is happening?<br><br>
I will pray for a speedy answer for you, and peace and strength.
 

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I had a very similar experience with a pregnancy and not sure if dates were off or if the baby hadn't developed four months after we lost Fiona. Unfortunately we did loose that pregnancy. I hope your situation is different and your dates are off. But I completely understand the emotional limbo you're in the middle of, and wanted to give you a big big virtual hug. I would def. see if you can pull blood draws today and monday. Of course those numbers aren't certain of what's going on, but I found having as much information as possible was the best thing I could do.<br><br>
Thinking of you and your little one mama, and hoping that your dates are off rather than an impending loss. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm so sorry. There's no worse place to be than limbo. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
The same thing happened to me and I concluded there was just no way my dates could be off - I would have had to have conceived AFTER I got a positive HPT.<br>
Hoping for better news for you, mama.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry you are going through this. Healthcare professionals do not take us seriously. They do not seem to understand the complete agaony and torture of these waiting periods. I hope and pray that your dates are totally wrong and that you're earlier than you think.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Your doctor is just trying to be cautious. They probably know that you could have ovulated later and they don't want to do anything drastic. I have heard of cases where the doctor is pushing for a d&c and at the appointment for it on the u/s they find a baby. In a way, it's agonizing waiting, but it's much better to do that than be too hasty, kwim?<br><br>
The good news, in all of this, is that the reversal was a success! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And if all goes well and this baby is meant to be, then after the birth you guys are going to have to use protection. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I know, not very comforting, but right now, there is nothing you or I or your doctor can do. It's hard to be in that place of uncertainty. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Here's hoping that your dates were off and that this baby is sticky!!!!<br><br>
Ami
 

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(((HUGS))) Hang in there, mama. I'm hoping for the best news you can possible imagine.
 
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